Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

2017 – will be the year I change focus, my priorities and my future ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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I am an intuitive, emotional person, who cares deeply about others, feels others pain and worries a lot about people being harmed. I am a very empathic person and I know that has caused me a lot of problems, in the last 45 years.

I have been processing trauma and grieving it, for the last 5 years. It’s horrendous and I make no apology for not minimizing the horrific nature of processing severe abuse and every type of abuse. I only deal with honesty, truth and reality.

But, I don’t intend and never did intend – giving this horrific stuff room in my life, forever.

So, it’s time to toughen up.

I will continue to do my part, on my social media etc. But, my boundaries are really strong now, and I don’t tolerate anything unhealthy or toxic. And I have no issue with removing unhealthy people – because I know they are not in any way my responsibility to fix or heal. Gone are the days when I felt responsible for unhealthy people.

And for that – I make no apology.

2017, will be the year I care only about what ‘I’ actually need to care about. For my life. For my children. For my future.

I need to focus on certain things that I know will push me in terms of coping – like my photography course. So, I need to evaluate what is important and ignore and remove all that is not.

I won’t cope well unless I prioritise and get rid of anything that is not imperative to my succeeding in becoming a professional photographer. That, and my children – are my main focus and the only things I actually need to focus on. My course affects my future and the future of my children. So, nothing is more important than that.

The other things in my life – like blogging, writing, my book, social media, will be reduced down to what I can cope with. I already take weekends off social media, and that will be extended to a few days in the week off too. And whatever I can do online – will be enough – whatever that may be and however little that may need to be. If necessary – I will takes weeks off, and that is the way it will be. And healthy people, will be okay with that. And the rest – can take a hike. I have no time or energy for selfish people any more.

I will no longer be spending time worrying, getting upset or thinking about the things that make me sad. I will no longer be writing about toxic people, unless I really need to. I’ve written enough about toxic people and abusers – to last a lifetime. I don’t intend to have them being a main focus in my life.

I am still grieving certain people and certain periods of my abuse trauma history – but, I don’t intend that being for much longer.

I am giving myself until the end of January – to grieve – and then that’s it.

Then it’s time to focus on the new chapter of my life – and that will be carefully balanced – to ensure I cope and succeed.

2017, will be nothing like the rest of my life has been.

2017, will be an amazing year.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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