Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

My husbands’ counselling, is a waste of time. Narcissists don’t change.


It is my understanding that narcissists do not change. And that is the view of many mental health professionals who have experience and insight into personality disordered, toxic, character disordered people.

He’s had a session today. And when I ask him about it, he is evasive, refuses to talk about it, and remains secretive. Which only furthers my view that toxic people, don’t and won’t change. He’s always been a liar, devious, manipulative, secretive and that won’t change.

But, I am at the point now, where I don’t care about whatever he is doing, thinking, unless it affects my children. He doesn’t have the power to bring me down anymore. I have removed that power I used to allow him to have over me. And it feels so much better. His issues are nothing to do with me, in any way. And I know that now.

I agree more and more with experts like Dr. George Simon, who speaks clearly about toxic, manipulative, dishonest people never changing.

And I agree.

It is stupidity to assume they will ever change.

Yet, mental health professionals will continue to take their money. I guess they have to delude themselves that they may be helping. They need to believe they are helping, to take money from people. Which is their issue and not mine.

All I care about is my children, my friends and myself.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “My husbands’ counselling, is a waste of time. Narcissists don’t change.

  1. I am so so sorry to hear that your husband is also a narcissist. It’s such a difficult pattern to break when we’ve been groomed in childhood. Your awareness will keep you sane and I hope your boys will only look to you for guidance and as the best example of a parent and person, to follow in life. ❤

  2. Lilly,
    Have you given some thought about joining a support group for Wives dealing with difficult husbands? I just thought about it just now as I was cleaning. I live in the States & I notice that there seems to be support for women with children. Is there an information line or help line to call over were you live?