Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Sadly, I think too many ‘therapists’ enjoy shaming abuse survivors ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


I just witnessed interactions between a ‘therapist’ who claims to be a sexual abuse survivor – and another survivor on Twitter. The lack of empathy shown by the therapist was so harmful and I know this woman should not be a therapist.

I think too many therapists are unhealed abuse survivors, who are still in denial of their own issues, yet are deluded to believe they can counsel other survivors.

I think some of them also have narcissistic issues, that show in their lack of empathy.

I think some like to stroke their egos and lord it over other survivors as to how ‘freakin amazing’ the therapist believes she/he is. Which is again is more narcissism.

Too many therapists shame others. They use insensitive language and they truly don’t care how that is harmful. When questioned they refuse to acknowledge this, and just default to the ‘I am right and you are wrong’ belief system.

I’ve come to realise more and more how vital it is for very vulnerable and fragile complex trauma survivors – to have a highly experienced, very empathic and very professional therapist.

And sadly, most do not. And for many reasons cannot access the quality of therapy needed.

For those who are re-traumatised by unprofessional and/or inadequately empathic/insightful therapists – they may never reach out again – as Pete Walker so eloquently and so empathically wrote about.

Most therapist out there, should not be treating complex trauma survivors. Yet, too many are and they hurt survivors all the more.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “Sadly, I think too many ‘therapists’ enjoy shaming abuse survivors ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Oh Lilly, I can’t read this through just yet…what I went thro, something so invalidatingly awful just yesterday, with so called ‘trauma’ therapist has sent me reeling with further trauma…

    I’ll comment when can later…
    Thank u tho. I’m sure your posting today was not coincidental…

  2. Reblogged this on modern day samaritan woman and commented:
    I have been traumatized horribly by so called Christian” therapists, yes, I said therapists…too many do not have a clue and some of them are down right abusive…beware!

  3. I agree 100%!!!
    My experiences have been similar.
    I no longer waste my time or money.

    People say that it is the stigma against mental illness or the need for therapy due to abuse that prevents people from getting help but that’s not true.

    What’s preventing people from getting help is the overwhelming number of toxic, abusive, Narcopath, disgusting, incompetent therapists there are.

    The few therapists who aren’t this way need to demand higher standards and get rid of the bad ones or they are choosing to ignore and enable abuse which then ruins their credibility.

  4. I don’t need a therapist I have you lily to help me connect the dots.