Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Grief is love with no place to go ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


This meme really made me stop and think. And it’s true. And it’s made me think even more than is mentioned in this meme.



I’ve been grieving all my life. Because the people in my life, were unable/unwilling to give love. They were people who used and abused. And whilst you try to give love to them, it isn’t treated well. And you don’t receive any love back.

I’ve been grieving all my life. I’m still grieving. Grieving my mother. My birth father who I have never met. My step father. My sisters. People I have loved in various relationships. Even now, I am grieving my marriage, my ex counsellor.

All the emotions, love and caring……. with nowhere to go.

It’s hard grieving people who are still alive.

It’s hard grieving an entire life.

But, that is what I am doing. And grieving involves many emotions. And grieving such heinous abuse, such neglect, such abandonment, such callous treatment, such pain…….. does not have a timespan.

And there is nothing you can do. Except try to suppress it. But, I don’t – because I know that only makes life worse.

So, I will feel all the emotions needed.

Because, I have no other choice.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “Grief is love with no place to go ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Please find a good enough psychologist; you cannot carry such a heavy load by yourself.
    ❤ ❤ ❤

  2. Yes it is awful grieving an entire life and for grief to be a constant companion, it’s suffocating. I understand this.

  3. Amazing!!!

  4. It has been painful for me to realize that my own parents and siblings are not safe for me to love.

    So I grieve never having had safe people to love.