Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

It’s always interesting seeing people demand I should not express my emotions & my journey ….. on ‘my own’ blog.


The world is full of different types of people. Some are selfish, self serving, envious and feel absolutely entitled to put others down – even on the persons own blog.

This blog is where I express everything I am going through. The good, the bad and the ugly.

It is my place to talk about my own specific journey. This is not a place for people to ‘tell’ me – my emotions and my journey are ‘wrong’.

Yet, there are people out there – who tell me I should not do this. Or I should do this differently. In the way ‘they’ think I should write. And leave nasty comments, when I am struggling. Their selfishness – and need to kick someone when they are down – is so evident in their attitudes.

I have come to understand – selfish attitudes, self serving beliefs, entitled attitudes, malicious mindsets and a need to hurt someone – are common and quite frankly – pathetic.

I will continue to express my journey, my emotions here on my own blog, with the honesty and integrity I have – to express it all.

And if anyone does not like that – they don’t have to follow my blog. They are very welcome to unfollow and not read my blog posts.

What they don’t have the ‘right’ to do – is tell my how to run my blog, what I should write and how I should feel. And I will block every single person – who does.

And this blog is currently at over 1.3 million views – so I am evidently doing something right. Something these selfish people – choose to ignore.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

7 thoughts on “It’s always interesting seeing people demand I should not express my emotions & my journey ….. on ‘my own’ blog.

  1. I’m so sorry people have been so horrible to you. Keep doing all the great things you do!

  2. I understand very well what you are saying. I have had this many times. People think I should stop writing my truth. Of course the people who come up on my blog because they abused me don’t like it either. I just don’t pay attention anymore I just do my thing because I need to or I will kill myself. Keep going and ignore as much as you can.

  3. The courageous way that you set boundaries inspires me to set boundaries with the control freak/flying monkeys that are trying to control me.

    I feel like I’m being pecked to death by flying monkeys. Triggers suicidal desires in order to escape them.

    This blog helps me to see how to stand my ground and have courage like you do!!!

  4. I have just found you and read one of your older posts. Then I come here to your current work and read this. I have had people in my life tell me I shouldn’t do or say things, and that is bad enough. But for people in the blogosphere to tell you what you should or shouldn’t write? Shame on them. Consider me a new follower who looks forward to reading every real word you write.

  5. Thank you all, I appreciate your messages.

    To know I inspire people to improve their own lives, with better boundaries, and standing up for yourself and your own needs, is one of the reasons I share my journey so openly.

    I’ve had a lot of people who have trolled and abused me for my work, over the last 4 years. And I refused to let them win, and I refused to let them silence me.

    My ex counsellor chooses to refuse to see that, and chooses to believe I was wanting to be abused. She is wrong. Very wrong. But, won’t admit that. She was never supportive of my work, this blog, my website, my social media. Despite how many people I have helped along the way and how much my work has saved my life, many times.

    I now refuse to be around people who invalidate me and consider me unworthy. Those who choose to see what I do in a negative way, can all piss off. And I am allowed to have normal emotions about that too.

    Interestingly, it is toxic people, who will tell you – you cannot have normal, valid and needed emotions – about the harm ‘they’ cause. I’ve seen that happening, all my life.

    But, toxic people don’t get to tell me, what I should feel, write, or think…… anymore.

    Lilly ❤ ❤

  6. keep on doing what you do, ignore the “haters”