Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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My ‘toxic people radar’ capacity – proven again to be correct ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


Following a message I received about a ‘narcissistic abuse survivor’ page admin, plagiarising other people’s work……. I had a conversation with someone I do trust.

This conversation led to talking about yet more people – who I had discerned some time ago as being a fake (due to victim blaming attitudes and dodgy posts) and definitely not what they seem. And the person I was having the discussion with – confirmed these ‘fakes’ have treated her really appallingly, with rage and nastiness. And she was shocked to be treated this way.

It was another of those ‘WOW’ moments – where I had already discerned people as fakes – even though the fakes had done nothing to me personally. And that insight was then confirmed correct by a another person – who ‘was’ sadly on the receiving end of these fake persons nastiness, toxicity, rage and unstable behaviours.

I should never doubt my capacity to discern toxic, fake, narcissistic people.

It is has been proven correct SO many times.

I know toxic people’s traits. I’ve been living with these types of people, all my life.

I’m never ignoring my ‘red flag’ discernment capacity…. ever again.

And due to the amount of cyber abuse and toxic issues far too many toxic people are causing out there in the world – I will stick to the few people I do trust on social media, and stay away from everyone else.

I don’t want or need any further issues from toxic people. (Despite what my ex counsellor may say to contrary). All my life, I have been trying to improve my life, improve my relationships, and choose better people to be in my life.

If I ‘wanted’ shit in my life, I’d still be with the psychopath, or my domestic violence perpetrator ex husband, or failing to confront the issues in my current marriage.

I’ve consistently improved my boundaries and self esteem to stay away from toxic people, and to not allow toxic people to prey on me. For many months now – as soon as I discern someone is toxic, I stay away from them wherever possible.

I’m 100% okay with the progress I have made in my life, to stay the hell away from toxic people.

I really don’t like good people being treated badly by these toxic and fake people. But, I am glad I always have my discernment validated and can be glad I ban and block these people.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “My ‘toxic people radar’ capacity – proven again to be correct ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Reading this blog has helped me to better access my own Toxic People Radar and my ability to turn and walk away from them mentally, emotionally and physically.

    I had never before experienced the empowerment this makes me feel versus reacting with “learned helplessness”.

    I say to myself “I’m not participating in this. I refuse to play this toxic game.”

    • Just want to add to my previous comment….. that I usually have to battle through severe dissociation and freeze and terror and flashbacks of being trapped and about to die before I find the strength to walk away from them because rejecting them can make them angry and even more abusive.

      But I’ve reached the point where I don’t care what they do to me or if I die. I’m not interacting with these people anymore by placating them as a way of trying to be safe.