Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

PTSD is not ruminating ~ Lilly Hope Lucario



I see people who have endured trauma and abuse, talking about ruminating, and I want to clear up the belief that #PTSD is ruminating.
It isn’t. At all.
When people imply people with PTSD are ruminating – they are implying the thoughts , intrusive memories, and emotions – are a choice.
PTSD is not a choice.

And most people with PTSD would tell you they would prefer to NEVER think about the trauma/abuse.
In fact, many of us spent a lot of time and effort trying to suppress the trauma – so we didn’t have to think about it – only to make our situation worse long term. Because suppressing trauma – never leads to healing.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “PTSD is not ruminating ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Thank you for this. May I post the picture on my Facebook page since it has your name for credit?

  2. I have been accused, especially by people at church, of having a victim mentality. I hadn’t really thought of it as being told that I /chose/ CPTSD (or severe depression, which is what I told them I have). But, now that I think about it, that is really what they were saying implicitly by expecting me to stop at will. I still trust God and the Bible, but don’t know of any churches I trust at this point.

    The thing is, the more I think about it, the more I see that there is /one/ particular way in which our will actually plays a part in having CPTSD (although it still is /not/ a conscious decision).

    It’s this: When a person is abused and traumatized, they generally take one of only a couple paths. They either choose to do their best to maintain their integrity, to try and pursue truth and love (although they will certainly find it difficult and painful as they try to learn how to do this), OR they will let their integrity and character become ugly as they turn into the kind jerk that hurts others.

    The latter person chose to become a narcissist (sometimes without even having any trauma), the former develops some other type of problem like CPTSD, OCD, depression, whatever else…

    The bottom line is that the only way in which anyone could say you or I have “chosen” PTSD is in the fact that WE IMPLICITLY REFUSED to turn into jerks who twist the truth and control others. If anyone, especially at a church, can’t see this, they definitely have no chance at showing empathy or compassion.

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