My husband – who has lied to me from day one as to who he is, has quit counselling. After 3, maybe 4 sessions. I knew that would happen. I predicted it.
And he did the usual ‘fail to tell me about this’. He avoids any conversation that he finds ‘difficult’. He is such a coward.
And…. when he finally did tell me he had quit counselling – when forced to tell me – he tried to ‘reframe it with good reasons’. Another typical narcissistic trait. Another form of lying. He deludes himself all the time as to his narcissism being okay.
I 100% accept he will never be anything but a narcissistic, psychopathic, lying, devious, cowardly, immature, selfish piece of crap.
I despise him.
I find him utterly repulsive.
I tolerate him for the sake of our children, but that is the only reason. And I let our children know his narcissistic behaviours are not okay, and why. I do not want them turning into people like him. If I don’t talk to them about their fathers lying, deviousness and selfishness – they will assume that behaviour is okay. And it is not.
I’ve now decided the only way to deal with him……. as he never intends changing – is to be the same as he is.
So, I’ve told him from now on I intend keeping things from him, being devious and doing things behind his back that he will not know about. He didn’t like that, at all. Of course. He’s such a fucking hypocrite. One of the those very typical ‘one rule for me, and one for everyone else’ narcissists.
From now on, I’m not speaking to him unless I have to. And he will know nothing about my day to day life, my plans, my friends, or anything else – unless I have no option but to tell him.
And until such time as my living situation can change…….. I will just stay away from him and engage in no conversation (because he’s such a liar I don’t believe a word that comes out of mouth anyway).
I will go out whenever I can when he’s home in the day and practise my photography, and completely ignore him.
I’ve tried everything possible to help him to change, to help him see his life will be better for him if he changes, and for our children ……. but he has no intentions of ever changing.
As true narcissists don’t.
He deserves to be treated the way he treats others.
And that’s what he will now get.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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