Something I have learned from living with a narcissist for the last 16 years, is the narcissists pathological need to avoid dealing with their own toxic behaviours, at all costs.
They lie, manipulate, gaslight and all manner of toxic tricks.
One of these, is when challenged on their behaviour and they cannot get out of the situation – they deliberately start provoking the person who is forcing them to ‘own’ their toxic behaviour.
They provoke and provoke – and deliberately push all the buttons they know will create anger in the other person.
Then when they have achieved that….. they scorn and mock the now angry person – labelling them the unreasonable one.
They will say things like…. “see no-one can talk to you” – “why are you so angry?” – “look at you – you are acting crazy”.
See what they did there?
They provoked and provoked…….. and then when the person blows ….. they deflect the issue away from their own toxic shit……. and turn the situation into being now about the other persons ‘issues’.
Meaning the anger they deliberately and intentionally provoked.
Meaning the anger the person being abused by the narcissist – has every right to feel.
Meaning the anger any normal person would feel at being treated so badly.
Manipulation, and avoidance of dealing with their behaviours, they are very skilled at. Continue reading