People have asked me why I blog as much as I do? And don’t I care what my abusers who read this blog – think of me?
I can see it is odd to some people – that I would potentially let abusive toxic people – know I am struggling, or I am suicidal. Some people seem to think it is ‘bad’ or wrong, to let abusers know we are struggling. Some people seem very concerned with what abusers think, or know.
I couldn’t care less what they think or know…… and never have done since I began my healing journey. And that is why I am able to journal everything. And be so honest, which some people are unable to be – if they are only willing to write the ‘good stuff’ what they ‘want’ an abuser to know.
So in not caring what they think, I am able to write about the hard stuff, like being suicidal, like when I am struggling.
And I’m aware many people relate to that honesty, and how I don’t hold parts of my journey back.
I wrote a post on my Lilly Hope Lucario page about this issue today…….
I have no desire to ‘prove’ anything to any of my abusers.
I don’t need to prove to them – they did not completely break me.
I don’t need to prove to them – I am healing.
I don’t need to prove to them – I am strong.
I don’t need to prove or show them – anything.
Because my healing has nothing to do with them.
My healing is about me.
I have no interest in what they think of me.
I have no interest in their opinion of me.
I have no interest in them in any way.
I couldn’t care less what they think.
They are abusers, so why would anything they have to say, or think – be of any value?
Nothing they say or think is of any value.
Including their opinions of me, my healing, my work, or anything about me at all.
And this is far more healthy, than the attitudes of needing to ‘show abusers we are healing’, or ‘we are successful’, or ‘we are happy’ mindset. That mindset only keeps you chained to the abuser.
You know you are healing, when you are no longer interested in the abuser in any way.
When you have nothing to prove to them, you are healing.
The abusers made it ‘all about them’ when they are abusing us.
Don’t let healing be in any way ‘about them’.
We have nothing to prove to them.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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