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If you make jokes about paedophiles & child sexual abuse – you are sick and heinous ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


Rolf Harris is court again, for more of his victims coming forward and stating he abused them. It’s bad enough that so many people defend him, and so many people ‘feel sorry’ for him because he is old.

But, today I read comments where people are making jokes about child sexual abuse and paedophiles.

How fucking sick is that. I despise people who can turn such heinous and abhorrent abuse and make jokes about it.

There is nothing funny or humorous in being sexually abused by a paedophile. And anyone who thinks its funny – is as sick and abhorrent as the paedophiles are.

I don’t want to live in a world with paedophile apologists, and rape apologists. Where people protect paedophiles, makes excuses for them and blame the victims, or say the victims are lying.

My mind always goes straight to thinking about the victims, and what they must be feeling when they see all these heinous comments.

It is disgusting to me, that the people who make these vile statements – choose not to consider how their words will affect the victims. They have no empathy or compassion for the victims at all. And no remorse at the harm they cause. And no regard for the victims’ suffering due to their cruel jokes.

It is times like this when humanity disgusts me. There are too many heinous human beings in this world and they cause so much damage and suffering.

And I hate it. I truly cannot wait to be gone from this world.

It feels like I live in the garden of evil. In fact, I know I live in the garden of evil. I see toxic people and their abusive and selfish souls.

I see evil. I feel evil. I feel the suffering caused.

And sometimes I feel the weight of so much suffering in the world, that it feels like it is killing me. The weight of it, is unbearable.

Should I feel the weight of it all. No. But, I do. I’ve accepted I am an empathic person, who feels the pain others endure. And I know that unless you have that deep empathic capacity, you don’t understand it.

I have also realised, I have endured so much abuse, all the types of abuse, to severe levels, over long periods of time…………. from different types of abusers…. the worst types – paedophiles, sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists…….. so I can relate to so many types of abuse, pain and suffering many people are enduring. And that’s really hard.

So when people make jokes – I feel the pain the victims will feel. For someone to make a joke about something so abhorrent, that has caused such suffering and life impacting consequences……. is cruel, vile and disgusting.

All it shows to me is a lack of everything that makes a human being decent. The lack of empathy, conscience, shame, remorse, regard for the suffering of others and finding other people’s suffering amusing ………. is so sociopathic.

And what’s worse, is how many of these sociopathic types are out there. But, they expose themselves in their cruelty.

I despair at times, about the evilness of humanity.

And I know people will think ‘why not just focus on the good people’………. well I guess if people need to ignore the bad, which fails to support those victimised…. then I guess that is their selfish need.

I do have to limit my exposure to evil/toxic/heinous people.

But, I won’t ignore it completely, because if everyone did that – who helps those suffering?

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “If you make jokes about paedophiles & child sexual abuse – you are sick and heinous ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Yes! I totally agree and I feel the same. I can’t watch or hear or think about people in pain, because I suffer with them. But I also want to help and educate people, so I hurt a lot for other people. I think it sounds logical that you can intensely imagine things a lot better, when you’ve been through bad things yourself as well. Sadly, I’ve had multiple forms of abuse by different kind of people (except for the evil part which they all have. Sometimes I think there are not-humans among us humans, because I wish that these monsters don’t have common human behaviour, how even more terrible the human race would be if it is considered a normal human trait…). It’s weird but for the main part I’m disgusted with people, I don’t understand how they can think like that and make jokes or victim blaming and treat people and nature like this etc.etc.

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  3. Yes I absolutely agree with this.Well said.I have family members who think the sun shines out of Rolf Harris’s butt,& that all the abuse allegations against him aren’t true.Also alot of people I know who don’t want to hear about abuse etc,as they say its to upsetting. I think its just weak,& protecting the perpetrators, not the victims.