Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

For those who do not have the ‘best case scenario’ for healing complex trauma ~ Lilly Hope Lucario



Complex Trauma – is interpersonal abuse – caused by ongoing or repeated trauma – caused by people.
Experts will tell you – complex trauma is only healed within safe, trusting, healthy, caring relationships.
This is how the wounds of being abused and traumatised by people – can be fully healed.
Many survivors, do not have this.
Many do not have caring, safe partners.
Many do not have caring, safe families.
Many do not have adequate therapists.
And that can hinder healing.
So, whilst we can do many things to help improve our wellbeing, those wounds of fear of trust, fear of abandonment, fear of people etc ….. may not be fully healed.
And I want to recognise that and validate that.
Many people do not have the ‘best case scenario’ for healing.
And that makes this journey, so much harder.
It is necessary to talk about this and highlight this – for all those who relate to this.
And this is another reason why journeys should never be compared.

I would like to add as well……….. even when a complex trauma survivor has a ‘best case scenario’ for healing… this does not guarantee full healing.

Complex trauma is known by trauma professionals – to be very difficult to heal. Obviously, with support and love from healthy partners, family and an adequate therapist to help – does increase the potential for healing.

So, it needs to be addressed and understood how much harder it is, without the best case scenario situation.

And this is something many mental health professionals do not take into account when writing about healing and recovery. They tend to consider the best case scenario situations.

But, that is not the reality, for many. And they are not helping those who don’t have what is required, to have a better chance of healing and recovery.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “For those who do not have the ‘best case scenario’ for healing complex trauma ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Let me preempt this comment with me having been labeled innumerable diagnosisis and it’s been rough but the most accurate is complex post traumatic stress disorder. I am in therapy and was recently asked if I even believed healing was possible. The honest answer I gave was I don’t know. I then went to the library and found this book called The Van Gogh Blues and was told to read The Happiness Trap. Both books seem to be very different than other self help books, but I am curious to know if you have read them, know people that have recovered, and how do we find small tangible reasons to keep going when some of us are supposedly incapable of healing and just prefer staying under the covers when we are going through the suffering over and over. You may not be able to answer my questions, but I still appreciate your dedication to helping others with all forms of PTSD from whatever the cause may have been.

    • I have read the Happiness Trap and I see clearly how people continually chase happiness, and never keep hold of it, because they don’t work on their issues.
      I do believe we can all heal to the extent of our own unique circumstances.
      Some people will heal in full, but that it much more attainable within safe, healthy relationships – which are required to heal complex trauma. As per experts like Bessel Van Der Kolk and those highly insightful into complex trauma – like Pete Walker.
      I always recommend people read their work as it highlights all the deeply rooted issues complex trauma survivors face.
      I am someone who deals with reality and not false hope.
      I want to validate those who’s journeys are very difficult and who have issues that hinder their healing.
      I have the empathy required to see outside of my own healing journey, and know others face very difficult roads, with no support, no therapy and little understanding from others.
      I have a website – full of info and ways to improve wellbeing and help manage all the symptoms – which I created for those who do not have a dedicated therapy team, as many don’t.
      Website is at https://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/
      I am glad you are in therapy – as that will increase your likelihood of healing more.
      But, I always remind people – that is not the situation for many and I validate their terribly hard journeys.
      Lilly ❤

  2. Really appreciate this line…
    “potential for healing.”

    And this line…
    “survivor has a ‘best case scenario’ for healing… this does not guarantee full healing.

    The entire focus needs to be shifted to “potential” for healing but with no guarantees.

    The pressure for victims to do their healing journey to the ridiculous standard of perfection and being completely over and done with the trauma is ABUSE!!!

    • Yes, I see clearly how that pressure to heal and recover in full, causes more harm for many.

      I always encourage people to do what they are able, within their own unique circumstances and that will look different to different people.

      And that’s totally okay.

      Lilly ❤