Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Lullabies Expressing Pain & Sadness, A Healthy Way To Cope With A Lifetime Of Trauma


When you have endured so much abuse, trauma and suffering, the profound sadness and aloneness you can feel – is crippling. And you understandably take comfort in ways that help reduce that suffering.

Many of my ways of coping in the past, were unhealthy. Alcohol, men, partying….. were all ways I tried to numb and dull the pain that I pushed down, so so hard. And in the process, I unknowingly prolonged the suffering and worsened my health. But, at that time, it was all I was capable of. And I am at peace with how I coped with such heinous abuse – from birth onwards. I feel no shame as to how I coped.

I no longer drink alcohol the dull the pain. I no longer party, or have sex with men. And I guess this shows healing. But, without those, there are limited ways of dulling and numbing the overwhelming pain and aloneness. And I do understand why people end their lives, when the pain becomes too much to bear. When ways of coping no longer have any affect.

Music has been one of the only healthy ways to cope, I have used my whole life. It still remains as a way of coping.

I relate to songs where pain and sadness are expressed so poignantly. Where suffering is expressed in ways that validate the profoundness of terminal hopelessness and terminal aloneness. In the past, music expressed what I could not. Now, I can express my pain, as per this blog. But, music still comforts me.

I understand how important music can be for many of us.



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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Lullabies Expressing Pain & Sadness, A Healthy Way To Cope With A Lifetime Of Trauma

  1. I’ve been trying to replace the coping mechanisms that saved me in childhood but now cause major problems.

    So I’ve started doing Art Therapy Journaling.

    It’s a way of creating a visual expression of my pain and agony.

    I also find that working with and focusing on colors can be healing.

    • I agree about music. I have the same piano my Grandmother bought me when I was 5 years old. It has moved many times with me yet it has always been like an old friend. I look at it sometimes and think of the many times as a child I was abused and unable to tell anyone yet I could play my piano and such a calmness within my heart. I played when I was hurting very loud and moving songs as well as soothing music to heal my heart.

      Also agree with Jules too. Art therapy has been so healing for me also. If I can focus on one of these it helps with my healing .