Having unfortunately dealt with a lot of toxic people in my life, I have come to realise that narcissists are indeed in love with themselves – but they are in love with a delusional beliefs about themselves.
The self delusion – is lies.
Narcissists whole lives are built on lies and deceit. And this starts with the lies they choose to believe about themselves.
And they will do anything to protect those delusions. If anyone challenges these delusions, they will react really badly and defensively.
They will hurt people even more, and have no empathy, no conscience, no remorse.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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May 1, 2017 at 6:01 am
What if the narc says he feels so insecure, he’s a wreck, and must fight his demons constantly? He didn’t really act at all like he liked himself, was very self destructive, in fact. Yet, he held himself in very high regard, better than others, smarter, above “normal” folks. Invincible, stronger, faster. Always back and forth between insecure and arrogant?
May 1, 2017 at 9:25 am
I think it’s going to be a process of figuring out if he really has self insight and really means what he is saying……… or is this more manipulation to make you feel sorry for him.
Narcissists are very capable of manipulation in many ways. And they are pathological liars.
So, it’s hard to know when they are showing anything genuine.
I do believe some people with high levels of narcissism, are capable of trying to change. Not many will, but some will.
Lilly ❤
May 3, 2017 at 5:38 am
D.W. Winnicott wrote about the true and false self; later writers, like Heinz Kohut, developed our understanding of narcissism. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/True_self_and_false_self