Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


I’m Going To Love & Honour My Inner Child, On Mother’s Day ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

Mother’s Day, is hard for childhood complex trauma survivors, who have suffered child abuse from the person who was meant to love, protect, cherish and nurture them the most. But, instead the ‘mother’ abused them, stealing the joy and innocence of their childhood.

This leads to a very hurt inner child. I did some inner child healing over the last few years. It was hugely beneficial to my healing process. Painful, hard, but needed.

I’m very emotional about Mother’s Day this year. I’m aware this is because I have processed the cold, hard, painful horrendous truth of the abuse from my mother, over the last year. And I am grieving and I will continue to, for however long that process is necessary. And I bear in mind, it took 18 years of my childhood of severe abuse and neglect, plus continued on into adulthood. So, the healing will take time too. You don’t get over decades of severe abuse, quickly.

I’ve read different articles on how to cope through Mother’s Day, when your mother was not the loving, cherishing person she should have been.

For me, at my point in my healing, I think I need to honour my inner child this Mother’s Day. As well as celebrate myself as a good mother, for my beautiful boys.

inner child pic


I will literally talk to myself, to my inner child and remind her how beautiful she is, and how much she deserves love, protection and safety. I will tell her she is a good girl, who deserved everything good she did not have. And how she did not deserve a single second of the abuse she endured. Continue reading


“I think your blog is a historic milestone and an important step to social awakening that needs to happen around the issue of childhood trauma”

Today, I received the following email, from a psychologist. I have removed the name, for privacy.

Hi Lilly,

My name is ******, 30 years old, from ********* , I work as a Children’s Psychologist. I follow your FB page and have decided to write you now following what you wrote about Mother’s day coming up and what it’s like for you.

I wanted to let you know that I appreciate so much how strong you are in facing the horrible things you have gone through. I appreciate so much the strength, and the special – so humane – character in the way you write your blog.

I am deeply sorry for the things you have lost, Lilly. I too know the horror of growing from a childhood that was taken.

And I hope these next few days go by as easily as possible for you.

I very much believe in your strength Lilly, to change your life and make it better for you than it has been for you.

Your strength in facing the hard past is very inspiring.

I also wanted to thank you for your blog from a personal place. Your blog has helped me in super-hard moments, and made me feel less alone in them. And besides that, I think your blog is a historic milestone and an important step to social awakening that needs to happen and will happen sometime in my opinion, around the issue of childhood trauma and how it effects the development of individuals. Continue reading