Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

“I think your blog is a historic milestone and an important step to social awakening that needs to happen around the issue of childhood trauma”


Today, I received the following email, from a psychologist. I have removed the name, for privacy.

Hi Lilly,

My name is ******, 30 years old, from ********* , I work as a Children’s Psychologist. I follow your FB page and have decided to write you now following what you wrote about Mother’s day coming up and what it’s like for you.

I wanted to let you know that I appreciate so much how strong you are in facing the horrible things you have gone through. I appreciate so much the strength, and the special – so humane – character in the way you write your blog.

I am deeply sorry for the things you have lost, Lilly. I too know the horror of growing from a childhood that was taken.

And I hope these next few days go by as easily as possible for you.

I very much believe in your strength Lilly, to change your life and make it better for you than it has been for you.

Your strength in facing the hard past is very inspiring.

I also wanted to thank you for your blog from a personal place. Your blog has helped me in super-hard moments, and made me feel less alone in them. And besides that, I think your blog is a historic milestone and an important step to social awakening that needs to happen and will happen sometime in my opinion, around the issue of childhood trauma and how it effects the development of individuals.

Warm regards to you,


I am so thankful for emails like this, that help me to keep knowing how important my work is.

I know it is my calling in life, to reach out to other survivors, with empathy, compassion, honesty, courage, validation, understanding and in a ‘safe’ way, that other survivors of complex trauma, can read and take comfort from.

To know mental health professionals, see my work as a ‘historic milestone’ – is amazing.

I have received so much feedback lately, as to the significance and meaningfulness, of my journey and in sharing it with others.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on ““I think your blog is a historic milestone and an important step to social awakening that needs to happen around the issue of childhood trauma”

  1. As someone who has worked for years with survivors of Domestic Violence/Abuse (tho it did not ‘inoculate’ me entirely from personally experiencing Narc Abuse Syndrome – story for another time…) I too agree, Lilly, in that u r part of an ‘acceleration of awakening’ that is occurring in our world in relation to humankind healing. A primary example, from my professional experience, r taboos of domestic violence, rape & child abuse r no longer hidden. Sure, still very much an uphill struggle in many of our western countries, let alone much of the rest of the world where there is hardly any refuge or even remote possibility of support for victims of DV, rape & child abuse. But ‘the genie is out of the bottle’ & cannot b returned, so to speak…

    We’ve mostly all heard of ‘hurt people hurt people’, or something similar. Most psycho-therapeutic counsellors sessions r filled with those who have been damaged (‘damaged’ emphasises destructive impact of abuse & not to label per se) by others – Oftentimes within the family &/or significant others. Counselling is far less filled with those who do the damaging….because of course such ‘types’ do not generally recognise there is anything wrong with them so why seek help…

    Much work is being done in Mental Health field too, in recognition of this dynamic. Rather than heavy reliance on ‘medical model’ – pathologise everyone, especially ‘treatment resistant’, medication (v short synopsis) – there is growing understanding &, therefore, development of relevant therapies of ‘social model’ – holistic approach to human suffering (again, v brief).

    U, Lilly, r part of this process of ‘awakening’, by speaking out & up for victims of abuse. Giving voice to what still many do not want to hear, but vital to those who suffer & continue to suffer ongoing impact of abuse in their lives. “Validate the pain, remove the shame” starts to happen. Only with empathetic validation of another’s pain can healing authentically begin…

    Thank u Lilly for the work u do. Giving individuals first & foremost validation that the pain & shame of abuse, whether life long impact from childhood abuse or adult abusive relationships, r not theirs to carry. Emphasising, Being abused is NOT your fault. Abuse ALWAYS is the responsibility of the abuser. Crucial first steps into healing.

    To see Mental Health professionals coming onboard your website is enormously validating collectively. It may take only one abusive person to damage another (oftentimes more than this), but it can take a whole community to heal that abused person…

    Keep on keeping on Lilly & thank u again for what u do x

    • Thank you so much for your message, your compassion and your insight. I truly appreciate it.

      It is always my wish, for anything I write and share, to give the gentle hope and the validation so many of us truly need.

      I don’t put expectations, or demands on complex trauma survivors, because I know how damaging that can be. And I always hope to reduce the shame we so often feel. And explain how the shame others put on us, is not okay and why.

      Thank you again, Lilly ❤