Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I’m Going To Love & Honour My Inner Child, On Mother’s Day ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


Mother’s Day, is hard for childhood complex trauma survivors, who have suffered child abuse from the person who was meant to love, protect, cherish and nurture them the most. But, instead the ‘mother’ abused them, stealing the joy and innocence of their childhood.

This leads to a very hurt inner child. I did some inner child healing over the last few years. It was hugely beneficial to my healing process. Painful, hard, but needed.

I’m very emotional about Mother’s Day this year. I’m aware this is because I have processed the cold, hard, painful horrendous truth of the abuse from my mother, over the last year. And I am grieving and I will continue to, for however long that process is necessary. And I bear in mind, it took 18 years of my childhood of severe abuse and neglect, plus continued on into adulthood. So, the healing will take time too. You don’t get over decades of severe abuse, quickly.

I’ve read different articles on how to cope through Mother’s Day, when your mother was not the loving, cherishing person she should have been.

For me, at my point in my healing, I think I need to honour my inner child this Mother’s Day. As well as celebrate myself as a good mother, for my beautiful boys.

inner child pic


I will literally talk to myself, to my inner child and remind her how beautiful she is, and how much she deserves love, protection and safety. I will tell her she is a good girl, who deserved everything good she did not have. And how she did not deserve a single second of the abuse she endured.

I’m kind of already having this talk to myself, as I write this. But, tomorrow I will actively talk to myself and really concentrate on thinking about the words I speak to my beautiful inner child.

I will also go and but something special, for her. For me.

I will celebrate my beautiful inner child. I will honour her. I will love her.

And I know in my soul, this is what I need to do tomorrow.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “I’m Going To Love & Honour My Inner Child, On Mother’s Day ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. My mom worked 11-7 as a nurse. My dad was an engineer for a refrigeration company. He and her drank. She stopped he got worse. Abused physically by him and she was the ignorant enabler. My 4th wife and I lived with her with our 2 children. The house became not safe for her so she went to assisted living. My new wife experienced a controlling atmosphere between her and 2 sisters who e pecked my wife to be like them.

    We now have a great house and exist as a family and I don’t want anything to do with my family!

  2. this is so new to me. But, very insightful.

  3. What a beautiful and inspiring blog, Lilly. To honor your inner child and to honor yourself is a big and healing step. I am so touched by you calling your inner child “beautiful”and reminding her she is worthy of love, security, protection…and that you will be that for her.

    You also are beautiful and deserving of love, security and protection. You are worth so much more than the life you had to endure as a child and young adult.

    Tomorrow, I will spend time with my inner child and tell her she is a good girl, for she believes she is a monster who could do no good, and I will celebrate me–as hard as that is, because I still have trouble with my worth.

    It sounds you have done much in your healing journey…and so much more to do. I send you love on this Mother’s Day and understanding and hope. There is hope in this healing journey.

    How privileged your sons are to have you as a mother.

  4. Wonderful post

    Helped me engage in Self Care instead of despair.

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