Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I Sent A Text To My Counsellor, On Mother’s Day ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


Despite all the issues that have arisen in my counselling, and all the times when I felt hurt, my counsellor has been more of a mother to me, than my actual mother ever was. She has been so good to me, in so many ways.

I know I push the boundaries within my therapy relationship. I know I get confused as to what I am supposed to feel, think, do etc. I know I have transference issues, which I also know is normal for a child abuse survivor. And I know my feelings and emotions for her, are a one way street. But, I acknowledge that for me, those emotions and feelings are very real.


I don’t expect her to respond, or text me back, at all. I think the mobile number she gave me, is her works mobile, which she may not even look at today. And that’s totally okay. And if she does see it, I know it is totally appropriate that she wait until my next counselling appointment, to comment about it.

I just needed to thank her, for being more of a mother to me, than my own mother. Because for me, she is a significant person in my life. A person who has shown me more compassion, than anyone else ever has.

So, I am grateful for that. And I just wanted to let her know.

(An update on this, my counsellor texted me back. She thanked me and said she hoped I had a lovely day with my boys. She didn’t have do that, so I am so thankful that she did).

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle.

3 thoughts on “I Sent A Text To My Counsellor, On Mother’s Day ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. I am so happy you recognize and acknowledge your needs, and most importantly you assertively acted on it!

    Also a very Happy Mother’s Day to you! Be blessed and revel in enjoying this day for the wonderful, beautiful woman you are!

  2. So beautiful!!!!

    And the mothering she’s done for you, you in turn do for us!

    Thank you!

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