Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

A Cautionary Tale About ‘Healing’ Abuse, Child Abuse, Complex Trauma ~ Lilly Hope Lucario



I see people who have similar attitudes to the one I had throughout my 20’s and 30’s. I believed I was so strong. I wonder if these people who sound so like myself before, are actually traveling the same path I was…

Suppressing it all, because it was so terrible and painful.

Until I could not suppress it any longer. And my brain and body began to break down.

‘That’ was when I began to heal.

What may look like someone is being ‘so strong, a ‘warrior survivor’, and the ‘poster child’ for healing……….. may in fact not be doing what they need to do to heal, at all.

I hope in sharing this, it encourages people to reflect as to whether they are suppressing, or healing?

In figuring out that the trauma has been suppressed, people may seek help quicker.

You do not heal any other way, than confronting it all. processing it all and grieving it all.

If this path is not taken, the trauma will continue to affect the persons life in many ways.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “A Cautionary Tale About ‘Healing’ Abuse, Child Abuse, Complex Trauma ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. This makes so much sense…that’s exactly what happened with me…thank you so much for sharing. This could be my story.

  2. Amen to that and thank you for sharing. I have 9/10 on ACE quiz…I wish I’d gotten help as a teenage. At 57, losing my job, narcissist abuse and little or no emotional support systems, I was just about pushed me over the edge. I had never realized how my C-PTSD (ACoA) had impacted my life/relationships. I’m working on my recovery with a ton more knowledge, but find my outer child sabotaging everything. I MUST take action steps now. Re-parent myself, journal more etc.

  3. I saw this on Facebook and clicked on it. Why? Because you were stating my truth…I too fell to pieces in my forties. It took a long time and a group of fellow-sufferers to get me to a point where I realized I wasn’t crazy, just stuck in a place where avoidance had been a comfort zone. On advice from those friends, I opened my Historical Pandora’s Box and laid it all out in the open where I could look at it from an adult perspective…I had to rescue the young girl I had been at the time of my trauma. I had to teach her how to view it from her adult perspective. I had to teach her how to breathe when faced with triggers. I had to show her how to apportion the blame to those whose fault she had taken upon herself. I had to teach her to use her ability to see the positives, where she had been dwelling on the negatives to the point of rejecting positivity as something she didn’t deserve. I had to convince her that depression/anxiety medication was necessary in order to rebalance the chemistry of her brain, and she had to learn to stay on them for more than two years…to stay on them for as long as it takes because stopping them prematurely provided nothing but setbacks. It has been a revelation to me…I was able to write a submission to a federal inquiry, after which I received an unreserved federal apology for the injustices and illegalities that had been visited upon me (and many others) by those who had something to gain from our loss. It’s been a long and sometimes harrowing experience but I have never felt better in my heart and soul than I do today. I hope that others can learn what they need to do in order to rid themselves of the debilitating affects of complex post traumatic stress disorder. Thank you for starting this conversation…I wish you well.

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