Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

You Know You Are Healing From Complex Trauma – When You Don’t Internalise Toxic People’s Darkness ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


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This toxic person – decided trolling a woman who has suffered so greatly, and then is grieving the death of her abusive mother – was the person to troll, abuse and harass. Which is a pretty disgusting thing for someone to do. But, that’s sadly how vile some people choose to be.

I always reflect on these situations – as to how I dealt with it and I am pleased with myself. I did not get remotely upset. I did not feel hurt or angry.

I just stepped back, looked at the actions of this toxic person, and placed the appropriate boundaries. I did not respond to her many emails. I did not react back. I’ve learned that toxic people don’t respond well to being told their actions are abusive.

And this is indeed – healing.

I no longer internalise toxic people’s darkness. That’s their shit to deal with.

I ignore them and ensure my boundaries are in place. Boundaries that do not harm the toxic person, but also ensure I am not harmed.

I wish them no harm. But, they don’t get to harm me.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “You Know You Are Healing From Complex Trauma – When You Don’t Internalise Toxic People’s Darkness ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Thanks for those great words, but let me say that it’s easy to talk about it but it’s too hard when you face it specially if I was the victim of one of those toxic people when that was conflicted with some issue in my personality that I have over compassion with the people and I also fall in love with that sick girl as I was in too bad conditions in that time because I was feel so lonely and so sad because I had to leave my country few months before due to some political issues with the government
    Its so long and too bad story I had with so much conflicting.
    Anyway, I needed long time to recover from that terrible story and I also still feel not recovered 100 % yet but now I’m much better than before
    But I’m still trying and your words affected me positively
    Thanks and God bless you