I am processing this information and it is devastating to realise – I have been subjected to this throughout my adult life.
And to know…….. this was never love. But sexual abuse. And rape.
There is also emotional and psychological abuse occurring when a victim being manipulated and coerced and the consent is not being freely given as a result.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
From this article…. which was significant to me being a childhood sexual abuse survivor…
Growing up as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I didn’t understand what was considered consent and not consent in sexual relationships. Although I felt uncomfortable being pressured to do something I didn’t want to, I didn’t understand the best way to say no. I am a freezer. That means when I get scared, I freeze. So likely when I feel uncomfortable with something, my whole body will get rigid, my eyes will get big, and I will become mute. When I learned more about consent by working at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, I soon realized that nearly all my relationships involved sexual coercion. Continue reading