Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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Horrible Dream About My Husband & Counsellor


I have always had a wide range of horrible dreams, from just unpleasant through to full on nightmares. PTSD has been in my life, since I was a child.

Now my husband and therapist have joined these trauma related dreams.

Last night I dreamt they were talking about me, mocking me and speaking about me in a cruel way.


I made a huge mistake asking my counsellor to see my husband about his character disturbance issues. He does need help, but that should have been a psychiatrist, not my counsellor.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Horrible Dream About My Husband & Counsellor

  1. I am a little concerned regarding your counselling situation because if your counsellor is working with you, then there will be a conflict of interest with working with the two of you. Also, because you’re struggling with C_PTSD there is yet again a conflict because he will become part of your major problem.The only time in my opinion it would be ok to work with the two of you would be if it is couples/families counselling. I am speaking as a Trauma Counsellor & as a Clinical Supervisor by the way, sorry I forgot to introduce myself !!. It would have been fine to refer him to A counsellor but not the one who is in a therapeutic relationship with you. Please keep safe & take care of you, and I hope your recovery is soon & as painless as possible.

    • Thank you for your concern and your message. I appreciate it. I think she feels able to do both, but I see it has made things worse for me. I do feel like she minimizes his issues and defends him, which reflects what other people have done to me in the past. It definitely is a conflict of interest. I’ve already decided to tell her if she continues providing him counselling, I won’t return for my own.

  2. Your cousellor may be well-meaning, but the fact that she has made this mistake – and it is her mistake because she is the “professional” and she should have known and informed you that she could not also see your husband because of the conflict of interest – tells me that she is not experienced enough (or ethical enough) to deal with your complex issues. You are worth better Lilly. Trust your instincts and seek another counsellor anyway. Hugs.