Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Projection From My Therapist, Instead Of Empathy

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I always work out issues, when I know I’m seeing red flags, issues that don’t make sense, seem confusing.

It has become very clear my therapist has a deep personal issue with being called names, so she projects that issue onto her clients, even when totally inappropriate.

It explains it all……. the constant direct and passive aggressive ways I have been shamed for calling e.g. paedophiles – paedophiles, and narcissists – narcissists.

I can call toxic abusers anything I want. And I’ve had that clarified by other therapists.

Now I know it was ‘her’ personal issue about being called names – projected onto me about an entirely different scenario – because my abusers are absolutely toxic and heinous.

Two entirely different situations – that required empathy to put own feelings aside, and hold the safe space for the victim of terrible heinous abuse – who has suffered greatly at the hands of heinous people – and call them anything I want. Which IS very appropriate.

I could raise this with her, but it will be denied and I am so over arguing with her. So, I won’t. It’s easier to just go along with some people’s issues, when you know there is not going to be an appropriate outcome.

It’s not worth the grief.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “Projection From My Therapist, Instead Of Empathy

  1. Based on what I have read here, if that were my therapist, I would fire her. I’m not trying to tell you what to do, just saying what I would do: Cut my losses and run.