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So Thankful For My Son’s Teacher Telling Me About Her Ex Being A Narcissist


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I had to talk to my youngest son’s teacher this morning, about my son leaving school early today, for an appointment with a child psychologist. I decided to explain why and that his father is narcissistic. I didn’t know how that would be received, but I needed his teacher to understand how my son is being affected.

I am SO glad I did, because she totally understood and explained her ex – the father of her daughter – is also a narcissist and she has been through hell due to him over the last 6 years. She even had to have 6 months off work, due to him making her so ill emotionally, mentally and physically. She totally understood why I am currently physically unwell and the emotional and psychological toll and impact on all the family.

She said yesterday – Fathers Day – was awful for her and her daughter was upset and it was not a good time. I explained yesterday was not good for us either.

She totally understood everything I have been going through and the effect on my children. She said she has noticed my son zoning out a bit and she also said that he is such an intelligent boy, that he would no doubt be a straight A grade student, if it weren’t for these issues at home. And I appreciated her honesty and being so understanding of how his father is affecting him.

She said she has been in counselling for years and so has her daughter and that I am doing the right thing taking my son to a psychologist.

She also said if I ever wanted to talk about any of what I am going through, to talk to her.

I am SO thankful for this happening today and to feel like someone understands and that person is in my child’s life too.

I really need support and understanding people, and hopefully the child psychologist will be a good support for my son and for me, I have counselling and it’s also good knowing I have support from my sons teacher.

I feel a little less alone today and I am thankful I had the guts to talk to my sons teacher and that it turned out to be exactly what I needed to do.

It is always such a comfort to know other people understand and whilst I would never want anyone to go through this, I am so thankful to those who have reaching out to talk to others and help others.

Today, I am truly so thankful for my sons teacher.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

6 thoughts on “So Thankful For My Son’s Teacher Telling Me About Her Ex Being A Narcissist

  1. Lily, that’s great that you found someone really understanding in your son’s teacher. And to find someone who is understanding at all to talk to, who also needs understanding. Good luck with the child psychologist, i hope you get a good one. If not, i’m sure you’ll keep looking until you find someone he likes to go and see. The right therapist can make such a difference. I don’t know if you’re going for therapy or just a consultation, but i appreciate that you are acting sooner rather than later.

    • Thank you 💜

      The appt went really well. The child psychologist was very validating and understanding. My son really liked her and wants to see her again.

      I feel like I do have support now with the teacher and the child psychologist, added to my ow counselling. To know my son has support is so important to me and I am so thankful.

  2. Wonderful news, Lilly! I’m so happy that you have a bond you didn’t know was there until you reached out in honesty and told his teacher. That shows what a good Mother you are.. I know God is answering many prayers for you. I’m so glad today you can “Be Thankful.”

  3. That really is good news Lilly. I am so pleased for you and your son.
    All my love
    Jane x

  4. Thank you all, I truly appreciate your kindness and messages, Lilly ❤ ❤