Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

It’s Necessary For Complex Trauma Survivors – To Understand They Do Not Need To Tolerate Any Form Of Abuse ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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A Therapist Is Kindly Sending Me Her Book On Boundaries ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries………. such a huge issue to so many complex trauma survivors and in particular child abuse survivors.

I cannot emphasise enough how important boundaries are. Both physical, but even more so – emotional boundaries.

My boundaries throughout my life, have been so poor, so soft and I had no awareness of this. Having been raised in a highly dysfunctional, unsafe childhood home, with highly abusive parents, I did not learn boundaries. I didn’t learn how to protect myself. I didn’t learn how to slowly build up trust in people.

I have done a lot of work on my boundaries, but still have further to go. Even recently, I let down my strong boundaries, and the person concerned took advantage and I got abused some more. But, I know my motivation for letting my boundaries down a little, and I know I was encouraged to do this. But, now I realise, I shouldn’t have. At all. I ignored my own intuition again. I won’t anymore.Β  Continue reading


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You Know You Are Healing From Complex Trauma – When You Don’t Internalise Toxic People’s Darkness ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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This toxic person – decided trolling a woman who has suffered so greatly, and then is grieving the death of her abusive mother – was the person to troll, abuse and harass. Which is a pretty disgusting thing for someone to do. But, that’s sadly how vile some people choose to be.

I always reflect on these situations – as to how I dealt with it and I am pleased with myself. I did not get remotely upset. I did not feel hurtΒ or angry.

I just stepped back, looked at the actions of this toxic person, and placed the appropriate boundaries. I did not respond to her many emails. I did not react back. I’ve learned that toxic people don’t respond well to being told their actions are abusive.

And this is indeed – healing.

I no longer internalise toxic people’s darkness. That’s their shit to deal with. Continue reading


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Surround yourself with good people ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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I no longer choose to be around people who don’t want the best for me.

I have no issue with removing people from my life who have non genuine motivations.

I have no desire to be around those who use and abuse others.

I no longer feel the need to give any attention to those who criticise me, put me down, mock, scorn, ridicule, invalidate or any other toxic behaviours.

I have no feeling of responsibility for toxic people.

And what is even better – is I have no desire to even think about these people, what their issues are, or why they are behaving the way they do.

Those days are over.

I don’t care to give them any attention, any longer.

I choose now, to only surround myself with good people who are genuine, have good motivations and want the best for others.

Who I associate with, connect with, spend time with, give my energy to, allow into my inner circleΒ …. will be a reflection of all I always deserved – good people. Continue reading