Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries………. such a huge issue to so many complex trauma survivors and in particular child abuse survivors.
I cannot emphasise enough how important boundaries are. Both physical, but even more so – emotional boundaries.
My boundaries throughout my life, have been so poor, so soft and I had no awareness of this. Having been raised in a highly dysfunctional, unsafe childhood home, with highly abusive parents, I did not learn boundaries. I didn’t learn how to protect myself. I didn’t learn how to slowly build up trust in people.
I have done a lot of work on my boundaries, but still have further to go. Even recently, I let down my strong boundaries, and the person concerned took advantage and I got abused some more. But, I know my motivation for letting my boundaries down a little, and I know I was encouraged to do this. But, now I realise, I shouldn’t have. At all. I ignored my own intuition again. I won’t anymore. Continue reading