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A system geared to protecting child sex offenders, and not to protecting children

I read this today – a man who has been charged with 79 counts of child sexual abuse, including rape, assault and making child exploitation material.

http://mypolice.qld.gov.au/blog/2017/01/19/geebung-man-charged-79-offences-rape-making-child-exploitation-material/

These are just the offences the police were able to have enough evidence of, to make arrests. There will far more offences.

This man deserves to be in prison for the rest of his life.

He won’t receive that sentence. He will likely do little prison time, and be made to complete one of the ‘sex offender’ program, that have very poor success rates – in rehabilitating paedophiles.

The legal system is geared towards protecting paedophiles and their ‘human rights’.

The system fails to protect children, from this most heinous abuse.

Paedophiles often get a slap on the wrist as a legal consequence of what they do. And they are let back out into the community – knowing they will re-offend.

Paedophiles rights, are clearly the priority.

To me, they lost any rights, the second they made a choice to sexually abuse a child.

They lost their rights to freedom, the second they caused heinous life long harm – to innocent children.

They lost all rights, the second they stole a child’s innocence from them.

But, the system, the do-gooders, the enablers…. don’t see it that way.

Because the rights of adults, are always considered of far greater importance, than the rights of children.

This is clear within the system dealing with child sex offenders, and is even very evident when considering the rights adults have to hit their children – which is physical abuse.

Animals have more rights, than children.

And no-where is this more deplorable, than in the way children are failed by the legal system dealing with child sex offenders. Continue reading


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When not ‘fitting in’, is a really wise place to be.

The church as a whole, has a long history of acting abusively, inappropriately, lying, being devious, dealing with issues in house and failing to protect children. I’m not ignoring this, like so many choose.

I’ve come to realise today…….. I cannot and should not, put my trust in an institution with this background, knowing these issues continue on and so many church people make excuses and justify, rationalize and basically are very unsafe and dangerous people to be around.

So, I’m not even going to try. I’m not going to even entertain the possibility of trusting any of them.

The church I go to, has the children’s ministry – where I can see them at all times. The toilets are single toilets, so no predators can be hanging out in the toilets.

So as long as we are in these areas, where I can monitor and see my children at all times, ‘I’ know they are safe.

I don’t have to talk to any of them. I don’t have to socialise with them. Just turn up at the time the service starts, leave when the service ends. And that’s it.

I don’t trust the minister will be truthful, so why even bother asking her anything.

I don’t trust my church going counsellor is truthful with me about these issues, so why bother even trying. The church she goes to doesn’t even allow female elders. That’s how disordered and right wing they are. There’s red flags, right there.

Trust is a huge issue to me. And why would I bother assuming I can trust people, who have a deep history of such unwise, opinions & actions, dishonesty, dealing with things in-house and in secret……and abuse so many people – children, LGBTIQ, women?

I don’t have to trust any of them. I just have to trust me. And trust my capacity to keep my children safe. And I will keep them safe. Because, I am a real mother, who cares more about protecting my children, than being a mindless sheep, in a church going along with the hierarchy, just to fit in. Continue reading


Having empathy, means feeling anger. And it’s needed.

I am a person with a great capacity for empathy. having empathy, means you feel the full range of emotions, especially for others who are suffering, and about those who cause that suffering.

I am so angry this morning, I’ve ended up sobbing.

People can all too often, be vile, disgusting, abhorrent people.

And too many people lie and deceive about really significant issues, like child abuse.

Makes me so angry, to know how many children are abused and how many adults, knowingly put children in harms way.

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It will be a case of ‘three stikes and you’re out’.

As I have blogged many times, I don’t trust church people to deal with sex offenders, paedophiles appropriately. The church as a whole, has very dire history, of dealing with predators, inappropriately. And it still continues.

My view, is sex offenders, rapists, child sexual abuse perpetrators, paedophiles, should not be allowed into churches. Or any place where there are children, who can be targeted by predators, who often have little impulse control and are often opportunistic.

My view, is one not agreed with by many church people. Ridiculous attitudes like ‘we are all sinners’, ‘we are all broken people’, ‘we need to show them grace and mercy’, ‘he says he’s remorseful and won’t do it again’, ‘he’s forgiven by God’ etc…. are ways in which predators know they will be welcomed, protected, and as a result enabled, to act out their sick, dark needs. And they use this to their full advantage.

Why wouldn’t predators use churches for their full advantage, when they know it a is place where they are very likely to be able to have easy access, to children and if caught, not dealt with appropriately, and instead enabled?

Church, is not meant to be a

safe haven for predators,

to be protected and enabled.

And any church person who believes it should be, shows toxic, unhealthy and dangerous beliefs and potentially, is an abuser themselves.

Church people all to often, don’t learn by previous mistakes. Sure, they half heartedly say they have adopted ‘child protection protocols’, but I’ve seen attitudes to this and often it is because they ‘have to’, not because they ‘want to’.

I’ve seen attitudes, where they do not believe ‘child safety checks’ should ‘have’ to be conducted for all involved in child ministries. I’ve seen attitudes, where they say they will not contact the police (despite the law stating they must), if a child says they have been abused in some way. They want to continue dealing with it in-house, no police, kept hush hush, kept a secret and basically the abuser protected, enabled and free to continue abusing children.

I do not believe for a second, this is what Jesus wants. Children sexually abused, and paedophiles protected? And shame and blame the victims? That is not the attitude of the Jesus, I know.

I also know that anyone,

who knowingly takes their children,

to places where predators are welcomed,

then they are failing as parents,

and SHAME ON THEM.

These unwise and dangerous attitudes regarding abuse and abusers, are why Continue reading


Tears for the Morcombe family.

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2016-03-11/brett-peter-cowan-high-court-dismisses-application-for-appeal/7239344

Daniel’s killer has been refused the application to appeal against his murder conviction. This piece of scum has no remorse, no conscience, no guilt, no shame. That’s how he still trying to get out of prison. He really believes he has the right to freedom. The right to do as he wants and no doubt harm more children, kill more children.

I am so glad they have dismissed his application to appeal.

I only wish they had kept him in prison, prior to him killing  Daniel. They knew he was not rehabilitated and could not be. Despite all the sex offender rehab’s he went through. His own psychiatrist knew he would harm another child. But, they let him out anyway and Daniel and his family were forever devastated by this decision.

I saw Denise on the news, and I could see and feel the pain in her eyes, her voice, her face. She talked about the relief she had now, but I could still feel the pain she was in. I cried. No mother or family, should ever have to endure any of this. No child should ever have to endure what Daniel endured.

The legal system is pathetic with regard to sex offenders, paedophiles and the like. They have more rights than victims and far too much leniency shown them. Continue reading


Hetty Johnston AM – Queenslander Of The Year…thanked me for my work :)

I greatly respect Hetty Johnston for her passion and dedication to improving the safety of children by tirelessly working, via politics, law reform, awareness raising, helping victims and more…..all to help reduce child sexual assault/abuse and for perpetrators of abuse to have more appropriate jail time, as currently the legal system is pathetic.

I congratulated Hetty on receiving Queenslander of The Year and I was really thankful to see she dedicated her award to all Aussie children 🙂

And Hetty responded back and thanked me for my work and how together we work towards making Aussie a safer place for children. And she doesn’t respond to many, so I felt very blessed.

I am so thankful she acknowledges my work too and made the time to contact me, especially as she is one of my inspirations and works within an area so close to my heart.

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Rolf Harris – Guilty on all 12 counts. There are more victims.

Another convicted paedophile, that denies he did anything wrong, protests his innocence.

I hope he spends the rest of his natural life in prison, so he cannot ever have the opportunity to get his disgusting hands on another child.

There will be many more victims that have not come forward, too scared to.

There are probably 100’s of victims. Most paedophiles have over 100 victims and Harris has access to more children, than your average paedophile would.

Apparently, he was good friends with Jimmy Saville and they roamed Broadmoor Hospital together, unsupervised. Victims of Saville have said he abused people there and had sex with corpses.

Yes, these paedophiles, are that sick.

No they cannot be rehabilitated.

They need keeping from society, permanently.

They ruin lives. Steal innocence. People kill themselves over this kind of abuse.


It is needed – to ‘bash what you hate’. It is wisdom, courage & integrity.

Society likes to promote all sorts of unwise garbage.

One of them is ‘encourage what you love, instead of bashing what you hate’.

This is all about apathy about important things in life, not hurting anyone’s feelings and focussing on the good. Which all seem great and lovely, until you look at the deeper issue.

I do intent to bash what I hate. Because I am not apathetic and I am not going to ignore what I hate, or enable it.

I hate abuse. Of any kind. I’m not saying I hate the people who abuse. I hate the abuse they cause. I hate that they choose to abuse.

I hate child abuse especially and I will not ignore it.

I will speak up and provide information on how child abuse affects the growing brain and causes long term damage.

I will speak up about all forms of abuse and say it is wrong and if you do it, and make excuses, then you are an abuser and I do not respect you and tell you what you do, is wrong and abuse. Continue reading


Powerful message from Hetty Johnston – Bravehearts Inc.

Please consider supporting Bravehearts – they have the passion and the wisdom to know child sexual assault needs to reduce and actually do something about it.

I want Australia to be a safer place for children.

I want children’s rights to live safely….to be the priority.

Not paedophiles and sex offenders having ‘right’s – that enable them to continue harming children – often causing lifelong consequences, suicide and impacting life so deeply.

Children need our voice.

I am NOT apathetic about child abuse – please join Bravehearts Inc – in their action to help reduce child sexual abuse as well.