Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


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The Continuum – The Way Survivors Think About Abusers ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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It’s interesting to me – to see the survivors on either end of the continuum – as to their thinking about abusers.

On one end, are the survivors who think that being ‘so’ compassionate about abusers, making excuses for them, minimizing their heinous nature, invalidating the harm they intentionally cause…..

And then on the other end…. are the survivors who are full of anger (sometimes suppressed but still evident), rage, they hate abusers with such fury they want them to be suffering back, they want them to burn in hell and fantasise about retribution and God throwing them into hell, or their karma coming back in another life and making them suffer terribly.

Both of these, are ways people cope.

Both of these are places I truly hope people do not stay in, because they are not good places to be, all your life.

And the people at these ends of the continuum do not give healthy advice to others.

Me, I’m in the middle.

I don’t make excuses for abusers. I don’t delude myself that I am ‘compassionate to abusers’ – simply because I can’t handle the truth. I deal with the truth. And then to protect their unhealthy thinking, they demand others see it their way too. And sometimes, they have a sense of superiority over others, who they deem not to be as ‘compassionate’ as they delude themselves into believing about themselves.

I don’t have in me, to hate people into suffering back. I don’t want anyone to suffer. Be in prison to stop someone re-offending, exposing sociopaths for the heinous predators they are to protect people – is wisdom, but in my case, not from a place of revenge, or hate. And it makes me sad to think some survivors will be in this place of anger and hurt, all their lives.

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Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD Is Now On Instagram ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

https://www.instagram.com/healingcomplextraumaptsd/

I have now expanded my work, to Instagram, as I know it is a very popular social media site.

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If you have IG and would like, follow me there and I will follow you back!

~ Lilly Hope Lucario


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Physical Health Issues Complex Trauma Survivors Can Endure ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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There are many physical and mental health issues, survivors of complex trauma endure. They can range from mildly life impacting – to severely life impacting.

I write a lot about the mental health issues, that develop as a result of ongoing abuse, including by ongoing child abuse, complex trauma and severe repeated abuse and trauma. The mental health issues that can develop are Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), severe PTSD, depression, anxiety and there are more. Many mental health illness/disorders can be triggered in particular by childhood trauma and abuse.

This article highlights, the physical health issues that many also develop, as well as the mental health issues… as trauma affects physical health, as well as mental health.

“Childhood trauma isn’t something you just get over as you grow up.

Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain.

This unfolds across a lifetime, to the point where those who’ve experienced high levels of trauma are at triple the risk for heart disease and lung cancer.

An impassioned plea for pediatric medicine to confront the prevention and treatment of trauma, head-on.”

~ Dr. Nadine Burke Harris – TED Med 2014


On 14th June 2017, I asked my amazing complex trauma community audience, to list the physical health issues they endure as a result of complex trauma.

These were some of the responses…

Fibromyalgia muscle pain, due to decades of body hyper-vigilance, headaches, dizziness, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, exhaustion.

Adrenal insufficiency from chronic stress

Anorexia (past), still have chronic fatigue syndrome, adrenal fatigue, IBS, other digestive issues, women’s problems, detoxification issues, vitamin D deficiency, all I think linked. I think some of that is to do with the anger being stored in the liver. All to do with trauma being trapped in the body & DNA. Epigenetic etc.

Headaches, unable to distinguish the here and now physical symptoms versus flashback body issues, chronic pain ( but I also have physical injury ) I think muscle tension increases pain during stressful times, anniversary dates (months).

I have developed Pseudo-seizures due to the trauma and chronic stress I endured. When I feel threatened I start having tics. If I have to deal directly with my abuser, attend court or something that triggers my PTSD I actually have a seizure. The Psychiatric Neurologist said that the abuse and chronic stress has taken a physical form. It’s repairable through intensive therapy. My PTSD brought on my Fibromyalgia about 10 years ago. My chronic pain and tics/seizures have made it so that I am unable to work anymore or drive. It’s devastating.

Due to Complex PTSD – my worst physical symptom was inability to eat without severe vomiting , which in turn caused serious acid reflux., weigh loss etc and also stripped the enamel off my teeth.

IBS-d (which is horrid for me) headaches, insomnia, nausea, vomiting, poor appetite or too much appetite, muscle tension and pain, fatigue, high blood pressure, GERD. Just off the top of my head. Hyper-vigilance and anxiety is the cause of much of it.

Sharp muscle spasms in my neck. Debilitating stress headaches.

I have IBS, hyper-vigilance and hypertension. Blood pressure couldn’t be read the other evening as it was too high? Cold feet and sweaty.  Muscle aches….feel like I’ve run a marathon. Exhausted.

Chronic migraines, chronic fatigue syndrome, psychosomatic joint pain in my hands, morbid obesity. Continue reading


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The Spiral Downwards ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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I’m not doing okay at the moment. A combination of things that matter greatly to me, that I don’t want to write about in detail. But, they are pretty devastating, and beyond my control to sort out.

I’m aware my mothers death is also causing me issues. I’ve dreamt about her several times lately and I think that’s affecting me more than I want to admit.

It’s interesting that so many severe child abuse survivors truly understand what a heinous childhood does to a person, and then how it feels when the abusive parent dies.

The people in my life, have no idea how that feels and they don’t understand, nor do they really care to try. I’m supposed to just get over it. Hey, it’s been a month…. I should be over already…

I didn’t take my children to school today. First time ever, I have not got up and taken them to school. Continue reading


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I’m Glad To Have Finally Decided To Create An Ebook – I Can Promote Via All My Platforms ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

I have deliberated over how to publish my book and I’ve settled on an PDF ebook, I can promote via all my social media, this Blog and my Website.

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I considered doing it via Amazon, and I see the advantages of it being promoted on a big audience, but I also see the drawbacks other authors have encountered, of dealing with reviews, dealing with trolls leaving bad reviews, when they haven’t even read the book.

I haven’t got time to deal with that crap. I don’t have the time or the motivation, to deal with negative stuff. And I don’t need my book to become a ‘best seller’ – I just want it to reach the people who need it. I just want to know it made a difference for people. And I could always re-publish it again in the future.

My Website has a lot of traffic and I could pay to have the SEO etc increased.

This Blog – has a of traffic.

And that is all enough for me. I know the book will reach those who need it.

SOOOOO glad I have finally made this decision. Continue reading