Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


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I’m Glad To Have Finally Decided To Create An Ebook – I Can Promote Via All My Platforms ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

I have deliberated over how to publish my book and I’ve settled on an PDF ebook, I can promote via all my social media, this Blog and my Website.

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I considered doing it via Amazon, and I see the advantages of it being promoted on a big audience, but I also see the drawbacks other authors have encountered, of dealing with reviews, dealing with trolls leaving bad reviews, when they haven’t even read the book.

I haven’t got time to deal with that crap. I don’t have the time or the motivation, to deal with negative stuff. And I don’t need my book to become a ‘best seller’ – I just want it to reach the people who need it. I just want to know it made a difference for people. And I could always re-publish it again in the future.

My Website has a lot of traffic and I could pay to have the SEO etc increased.

This Blog – has a of traffic.

And that is all enough for me. I know the book will reach those who need it.

SOOOOO glad I have finally made this decision. Continue reading


Videos Highlighting Many Of My Posters/Memes ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

https://www.facebook.com/pg/HealingFromComplexTraumaAndPTSDAndCPTSD/videos/

Check out the above link, which takes you to slideshows of posters/memes I have created, to help spread awareness, compassion and understanding. Continue reading


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Thank God for Jeff Brown. I think he is the only person who thinks to the same depth as myself ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

This is from Jeff Brown – @ http://soulshaping.com/


“Next time you have a terrible thing happen to you and someone says ‘You chose your every experience’, knock them unconscious 🙂. When they come to, ask them to thank you for fulfilling their dream. And then, insist that they forgive you before they have even healed their head wound. Then tell them that ‘pain is an illusion- just be aware of it, witness it, and you will come into the Power of Now’.

Then, remind them that there are no victims and that they just need to ‘turn around’ their story of victimhood. When they try to get up, push them back down on the ground, and remind them that ‘everything you see and experience is a reflection of you’. That is, ”you must have had some issues that you needed to look at around violence. I gave you a gift. Be grateful.”

Ask them for some money in exchange. Tell them to give you their pin number. When they begin to get angry, remind them that anger and judgments are substandard emotions and that there is never anyone to blame. If this doesn’t soften their edges, inform them that the ego is the enemy, and that the part of them that is perceiving this situation as unacceptable is merely misidentified… “You are trapped in the matrix, and seeing the world through that limited lens.”

Tell them you are here to liberate them. And then, steal their wallet, so they can learn another valuable lesson about attachment and manifestation.”


 

I am so thankful that at least one person understands how bizarre, irrational, unhealthy and toxic so much thinking out there is.

I feel like an alien on this planet, but people like Jeff truly get, what I understand and see people choose to believe and I think ‘what?????? – are you really serious that you believe that BS?????’. But they do. In their millions!

I told Jeff Brown recently about a Buddhist ordained monk, who told me child sexual abuse is deserved – due to past karma and I should be glad I am suffering in this life – to get rid of that karma. Jeff responded, that I should punch the monk in the face. And quite frankly, the monk would have deserved it – for spewing such evil. No child EVER deserves to be sexually abused.

Jeff understands so much toxic religious, New Cage (how he rewords New Age) and popular thinking, is utter bullshit. As I so clearly see it is too.

And so many of these people who spout this toxic BS – believe they are ‘enlightened’. When in fact they are simply delusional and toxic.

Thank God for people who have the same capacity for rational thinking, and depth of thinking.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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That moment when you desperately want to talk to your former counsellor, but can’t ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

My former counsellor was there through all the abuse I endured from the Baptist cult. She even confirmed in writing that I was spiritually abused – for the formal investigation. Not that it made any difference, the investigation was totally corrupt. As a lot of ‘church’ in-house investigations are.

I just went through a hugely triggering situation. Someone posted the business page of the best friend of the pastor who abused me….. onto my personal Facebook account. Which sent my PTSD mind into a complete panic. It’s when things like this happen you know you still very much have PTSD.

The triggers, the anxiety, the panic, the fear, the thoughts, the emotions, the invasive memories.

PTSD sucks. It really does.

In this state of panic and fear, I immediately wanted to talk to my counsellor. She was my ‘support’ over the last 5 years. She would probably minimize the situation and not really care how distressing this was for me, but she was all I had to talk to when all the church abuse and investigation were going on. And all I had over the years since then.

It’s really sad, when I reflect about all her minimizing about that cult abuse. She never validated how horrible that all was.

It interesting reflecting on how little empathy she had, how she minimized a lot of things – unless I pushed her to confront how bad something is.

I can’t make up my mind whether she is just so desensitised about abuse and heinous abusers………. or truly lacks empathy……… plus only has completely self serving views to do her job………. or whether it is a combination of all of them. Continue reading


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That moment when someone recommends a hairdresser and it’s a child abuser from the abusive church/cult!

Well that was a moment of panic that set in. The abusive Baptist cult – I was abused at, has some cult members that are ‘best friends’ with the narcissist pastor, who abused me.

The wife is a hairdresser and unfortunately, her children go to the same school as my youngest child. She is blocked from my personal Facebook account, and that way I avoid having to see anything posted by her on the school FB page.

I asked for a recommendation for a hairdresser, and someone I am facebook friends with, sent a link to this abusive hairdresser woman.

Yikes – the last person I want to see is that woman or anyone from that cult, on my personal facebook account.

This woman is the one who I received a message from about the abuse witnessed and considered disgusting. The person who emailed me, has been to that Baptist cult, and was shocked by the child abuse that was encouraged there. She told me about this hairdresser starving her toddler, because the toddler would not eat dinner. She also said a lot of other abusive behaviour was witnessed – women being treated badly etc.

I validated this persons account of all the child abuse, spiritual abuse and domestic violence – that goes on there. Including all the physical abuse – taking belts to children, beating them etc.

A few emails went back and fore. I was glad she wrote to me, to confirm if it was this Baptist cult where I had been abused. It helped to know other people realised how abusive they all are and how disgusting their behaviour is.

So, when I received this recommendation of this hairdresser – I panicked.

But, I stopped, deleted the posts that were on my Facebook account. Blocked the hairdressers FB business account page.   Continue reading


Wise quote from Shannon Thomas about how ‘churches value their reputation’ as a priority

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I love Shannon Thomas’ capacity for courage to say it exactly as it is. She doesn’t shy away from speaking the truth and when it comes to church people – that is not common.

I believe most churches value their reputation over the wellbeing of abuse survivors. I’ve seen it personally occurring and I’ve read so many situations of abuse from church people and how badly the church hierarchy deal with it.

Even though I have issues in my own faith journey, I still know many abuse survivors are out there now, in their thousands, being spiritually abused by church people. And I am not okay with that.

Honesty and truth needs to be exposed and spoken. And spiritual abuse goes on far too often. And it can cause PTSD.

When anyone values their reputation over dealing with an abuse survivor in an appropriate and compassionate manner……… they are being abusive.

Of course they will justify it, by cherry picking Bible verses. They will rationalise it, minimize the abuse and trivialise the abuse. They will spiritually abuse the victim, by suggesting the victim is not a ‘good enough’ Christian – when this is merely a projection of their own failures and issues. Continue reading