I always work out issues, when I know I’m seeing red flags, issues that don’t make sense, seem confusing.
It has become very clear my therapist has a deep personal issue with being called names, so she projects that issue onto her clients, even when totally inappropriate.
It explains it all……. the constant direct and passive aggressive ways I have been shamed for calling e.g. paedophiles – paedophiles, and narcissists – narcissists.
I can call toxic abusers anything I want. And I’ve had that clarified by other therapists.
Now I know it was ‘her’ personal issue about being called names – projected onto me about an entirely different scenario – because my abusers are absolutely toxic and heinous.
Two entirely different situations – that required empathy to put own feelings aside, and hold the safe space for the victim of terrible heinous abuse – who has suffered greatly at the hands of heinous people – and call them anything I want. Which IS very appropriate.
I could raise this with her, but it will be denied and I am so over arguing with her. So, I won’t. It’s easier to just go along with some people’s issues, when you know there is not going to be an appropriate outcome. Continue reading