Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


The lack of empathy in people, just never ceases to bother me.


Empathy is rare, I know that. Most people only have sympathy, but think that is empathy.

I can tell who has empathy and who doesn’t and why.

Saw a post about mothers on Christmas Island trying to end their lives, to give their children a better chance at life.

Now regardless of the politics, this made me want to cry. Just thinking about how these mothers are feeling, to be considering suicide to help their children, makes me very emotional.

And yet so many do not have empathy and I have just forced myself to get off a page where this is all being debated and the lack of empathy astounds me. The selfishness, the ‘making up’ facts to better their argument, then ignoring the real facts I provided. Continue reading


Being empathic, having life wisdom, feels like both a blessing and a curse.

Unless I cut myself off from society completely, which I can’t, I am always going to see and know the bigger of picture of all the sin, suffering and unhealthy stuff that goes on.

It overwhelms me.

I can feel deep depression setting in and it has been worsening over the last few days.

I can’t switch it off, just to make my life better, easier. I don’t have that capacity.

I genuinely want better for humanity, than all I see.

I know how much suffering, hurt and harm is going on and I can’t ignore that.

Being empathic, having life wisdom, not being egocentric, feels like a blessing and a curse.

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I can’t ‘save’ everyone and I need to protect myself, more.

Post to my page.

I am a naturally protective, empathic, compassionate person.

No matter how worried and sad I feel for so many people who are being conned by a sociopath on another PTSD page, who is conning and manipulating so many people…

I cannot save everyone, even though I want to.

It is being dealt with and I need to wait patiently for the situation to come to it’s conclusion, that will occur.

I hate to think of many people being harmed during the time that this will take, but it is not my responsibility to try to protect people.

My role now, is to continue helping those who reach out here.

And this is healthy self boundaries, that mean I know, I cannot risk my own self, to try and save others.

My own needs ‘are as important’ as the needs of others.

This is pretty good progress for me.


This was a comment on Twitter, from another amazing page, in response;

ANA – AfterNarcAbuse @Light_Life_Love

@HealingCPTSD Absolutely, correct! Love your perspective, witnessing your growth, peace and healing!! You’ve got moxy AND class!

Yay! Advice on how to be a happy Empath/HSP.


Have you always known there was something “different” about you? Does the world seem to bombard your senses? Have you intuitively known things that others didn’t? Is it all pretty awesome EXCEPT: you’re so worn out, overwhelmed, emotional, stressed and maybe even medicated that you wonder how you fit in? (and how you fit into your life?)

Well, this site is for you. You the intuitively gifted, emotionally perceptive, astutely sensitive and sensorily overstretched. I am like you, and it took me quite a while to figure out what that was exactly.

You see, it all gets a lot better when you figure out what that sensitivity is exactly, how it works, and how you can best work with it, in your own unique way. There is nothing wrong with how you were built. It’s just that, you were likely told you were a mountain bike, when in fact, you are a less sturdy but very agile and fast racing bike. You’ve been driving yourself down muddy tracks and wondering why things felt so wrong. So here’s why, your way of relating to the world is different, your way of traveling through the world is different, and your way of knowing the world is different. You are definitely a bicycle, just a different type.

So, to get the most out of your qualities you need to reorient yourself (what is being sensitive all about?) you need some training (racing bike pedalling techniques) and you might need some guidance and help (turn left, brake, you can do it!).

Welcome to the Happy Sensitive. The place where you are NOT told that you will just have to deal with being a badly designed mountain bike (and that, what’s up with you for apparently lacking humongous shock absorbers anyway?!). The place where you will NOT be told that if you can’t navigate down that muddy track, you just have to try harder. The place where you will NOT be told that being “Highly” is a euphemism for “overly” “exaggerated” and “weirdo” Sensitive. Rather, here it’s all about being sensitive and happy.


Jesus was the greatest empath who has lived…but He had boundaries.

At counselling with my doctor today, we were discussing the hurt and pain I feel seeing all the suffering in the world, like asylum seekers being treated badly and children having their parents taken off them, like knowing about the street children in Nepal and how badly abused they are and starving, and feeling a little of their pain.

Knowing millions of people are starving, recognising that I don’t know their level of suffering and how I desperately do not want that for them, which is all about deep empathy.

I said that Christianity doesn’t like to talk about empaths, however Jesus was an empath. My doctor agreed and said the difference is He had boundaries. And I know boundaries – is one of my weaknesses.

I also know I deal with the hurt and pain I feel for all these people suffering – by feeling angry at the people responsible – mostly being all the apaths.

How can they NOT care??????

Well, they just don’t. They are like teenagers, stuck in that teenage egocentric level of emotional intelligence and lack of empathy – and this just did not develop for them. Their lives are still ‘all about them’.

Suffering does in fact grow depth of wisdom and empathy, that cannot be developed in ease and comfort.

And with Christians – this goes along wit their stage 3 adolescent stage of faith, which most never get past too – where all they see is their lives, their own family and the church and the rules and regulations of being a Christian. And that’s it. Just like teenagers in school. Continue reading

Empath, Highly Sensitive Person, Burden Bearer – whatever it is called – I am one.


This post of from this ^ link.

An empath is a highly sensitive person who can literally feel other people’s emotions as their own. They feel everything and sometimes to the extreme. They are quite giving, spiritually attuned, and world-class listeners.

This might sound pretty cool, but I assure you that it can be a curse if you do not understand what is happening to you. When I found out I was an empath, it came at a time of emotional breakdown, which is not the optimal time to discover this! You can literally be walking around with a lifetime of accumulated karma, emotions, and energies of others. Until you learn about empaths and hone your skills, it can be an overwhelming experience to absorb everyone’s emotions around you.

Dr. Judith Orloff, emotional freedom expert, states that empaths can become angst-sucking sponges. She states that this can lead the empath sucking up negativity and lower frequency vibrations in an atmosphere and become exhausted. They are easy targets for emotional vampires, whose fear or anger can ravage empaths. It’s difficult for them to see the beauty around when they are full of emotional angst. They may have trouble in relationships due to being highly sensitive and needing time and space alone.

Empaths have unique variations in the central nervous system. The sensory organs have low thresholds resulting in high sensitivity to light, sound, and smell. I remember literally feeling my nervous system shaking inside. I never understood what was going on.

Are you an empath?
•Can you feel what other people are feeling?
•Do people tell you that you are “too sensitive” or “too emotional”?
•If a friend or partner is distraught, do you start feeling that as well? Continue reading


Empathy is decreasing in this world, as narcissism increases…



College students who hit campus after 2000 have empathy levels that are 40% lower than those who came before them, according to a stunning new study presented at the annual meeting of the Association for Psychological Science by University of Michigan researchers. It includes data from over 14,000 students.

Although we argue in Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential–and Endangered that modern child-rearing practices are putting empathy at risk, this is the largest study presented so far to quantify the decline.

Previous research done by psychologist Jean Twenge had measured what she labeled a “narcissism epidemic,” with more students showing selfish qualities and with increases in traits that can lead to a diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder. That is a condition in which people are so self-involved that other people are no more than objects to reflect their glory.

Justice will not be served…..


This is the problem with apathy, and narcissism, it enables injustice and suffering to continue.

And apathy and narcissism, are increasing and will continue to.

Which means, there will be less and less justice, and increased harm and suffering in this world.

Which makes me very sad and I grieve this understanding.


It’s weird, but good, and safer, not being on facebook…

I have spent a lot time on Facebook, both with my healing community page and my own personal account, plus the new page I set up.

I do miss them, I miss the connecting with people, I miss helping people, I miss being able to make encouraging comments and if people I know are unwell, or stressed, to offer kind words.

It is interesting how much I have done that for others, and how little I received back, particularly when my situation became very severe and everyone ignores that.

It’s so true what I read about your average person validating and dramatizing normal life experiences as though they are huge, and ignoring and minimizing real suffering. it’s the way of humanity with weak characters, with no empathy and little capacity to do what’s needed. Continue reading