Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


I Wouldn’t Be Here Now – If It Weren’t For My Online Community & The Kindness Of Strangers

I’ve thanked my Facebook community and I want to acknowledge this here. If it weren’t for the kindness of people online, I would not be here.


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So Grateful To Have Free Access To A Gym, All Exercise Classes & All Facilities ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

As per my last blog post, I have decided I need to focus on my health, starting with my physical health.

The facility/organisation also have youth programs and do a considerable amount for the community, mostly focussed on children and youth. As it is a police run organisation, their focus is on helping children and teenagers to stay on the right path. And to help mentor them and hopefully lesson the chance of them ending up on drugs, committing domestic violence and criminal activity.

I think their work is amazing and vital within society. So, I offered to volunteer, as helping children and young people is a passion of mine. Especially those who are vulnerable and in need of good influences in their lives.

As a result of offering to volunteer, I was told I could use all the facilities free. Including the gym and exercise classes.  And the other classes such as rock walling and basketball – which my children can also use free.

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I feel so blessed. I am really needing to focus on my health, and this being offered to me – all the fitness and exercise facilities/classes free – is so amazing and needed. I have no excuse now, to not get really fit. The yoga, Pilates and Zumba classes – are a few of the ones that are available after school drop off time, which is fantastic and fits right into my routine as a stay at home mother. And the gym is open from 6am – 9pm most days.

For my children to be able to use the facilities free too – like rock walling, is amazing and such a blessing to my family. My older son who is 14, thinks regular rock walling, basket ball etc – is great. And my younger son is also looking forward to using the facilities too.

I nearly cried when the manager of the complex told me I could use everything free. It really was a case of having that tiny flickers of hope, and turning that into a bigger sense of hope for the future.

I am so grateful for the opportunity to help children and youth. And I am so grateful for the use the facilities and classes completely free.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Gratitude and Mindfulness, Help When Struggling ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

I’m struggling at the moment. For various reasons.

Today, I went for a walk with my family – my boys, husband and my dog. It was a truly beautiful day, we saw a pirate ship that had docked, had fish and chips for lunch, and walked along the beach, collecting shells.

It did help me to see the beauty all around me. See the joy my boys were experiencing and smell the wonderful sea air, I love.

I also always try to have gratitude in all the little things, all the beauty around us, and be really mindful of all this. And be truly thankful. Which, I am.

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‘A special thank you’ dedication…. tears.

Shahida Arabi, is wonderful, intelligent, genuine survivor, who I am blessed to have connected with. Her first book, was notably important and I appreciated it greatly. I knew it would help many and so I added it to my book recommendation list on my Website and via my social media. That was over a year ago.

Since then, Shahida and I have been in regular contact and she invited me to write some posts to add to her new book. I was shocked, and so thankful! I sent some posts and Shahida confirmed they would be included in her new book. I have advertised, recommended this book, as I know this will help many more people.

We have discussed many matters regarding being advocates for abuse survivors and the ups and down of this journey, in trying to help others in a meaningful way. We have supported each other about issues that arise, caused by other people, and we can write to each about this, knowing we both have similar thinking and empathy. And this support, has been wonderful to both offer and receive. Continue reading

I am so thankful I started my ladies group :)

My ladies group is going so well. I am thankful I decided to start it. We have regulars who come during the weekdays and on the fortnightly Saturday group.

I’m really enjoying it and the ladies are too. Today, was a combo of some deep and meaningful conversation, light-hearted conversation, mixed with some fun and lots of laughter.

One of the ladies has recently registered on a dating website, and it was such fun talking about it, and she set up her first date, with our encouragement. We gave some advice on keeping safe – public place, daytime meet up for coffee and having an escape plan if needed. She was a bit nervous, so we discussed conversations she could have. It created lots of giggles and laughter. I hope she enjoys her date 🙂

I am thankful for this very diverse group of ladies. All with something unique to offer and different life experiences. Continue reading


Honoured – invited to be a resident blogger & a resource.

A PTSD website, that facilitate online chat and a forum, have invited me to be a resident blogger and share my Website/Blog, as a resource. They have also suggested creating a new category, for Complex Trauma/ComplexPTSD.

I am honoured to be invited and very thankful.

The more we share our collective knowledge and empathy, for others, the better.

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Imagine how this would feel, in a country with no healthcare.

When I was sat in the emergency hospital waiting room on Sunday…. knowing I had to be there to keep myself safe…. it came into my mind, what this would feel like with no health care?

I know the answer. I would be dead. The health care available where I live, has helped me to stay alive.

I’ve been to third world countries. I’ve seen the living conditions, the lack of healthcare, lack of education, lack of decent housing, lack of everything. A few years ago, I did a fair amount of research about Nepal. And the street children and orphanages. I learned from research the really high level of homeless women and the No1 cause of death, is suicide.

As I sat in the waiting room, of the really clean hospital, knowing I had just come from my decent car, and my decent home… I thought about how it would feel to be suicidal, somewhere like Nepal. I do understand why the suicide rate is so high. With the level of physical and mental health issues these desperately poor people are enduring, suicide would be an option I can see many would take. The complete lack of hope, help, support and enduring major health issues, would be horrendous.

I do complain about the health system here in this rich country I am blessed to live in. I complain mental health is not prioritised and there is a need to want this issues to improve. And I do believe this needs changing.

But, bottom line, I am so blessed. I have a very patient GP counsellor who bulk bills all my weekly appointments, so I don’t have to pay anything. I have access to Continue reading


I am so thankful, for all the support I receive.

I am always so thankful, to receive support for my work. Here on my blog, for my website and via social media. I do have a lot of ongoing support from many mental health professionals, many survivors of complex trauma, authors etc. And I am thankful for each and every person. More than anyone probably knows.


I am so thankful to have recently been asked to provide an article for a best selling authors new book. Which I have now provided. I feel very honoured to be asked.

It does raise my spirits, when I see how the work I do, helps people in a meaningful way. It keeps my motivation going, to keep sharing, keep writing.

I’m aware from the ongoing feedback I receive, raw honesty and a capacity to express  how this complex journey feels – the good, the bad and the ugly – is something so many complex trauma survivors need and search for. Continue reading

So thankful to receive another award!

I am very blessed, to receive my 22nd blog award. I always hope my blog helps people, as I know how hard this journey is.

Thank you to Gentle Kindness (http://gentlementalannie.com/2016/01/24/awards/(, for nominating me ❤

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