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Thank God for people like Jeff Brown. His insight and capacity to discern the toxic and unhealthy thinking out there, mirrors mine and is rare.
I will also add Buddhism also perpetuates victim blaming and re-victimising trauma survivors.
It is nothing but toxic, irrational and unhealthy thinking.
I have learned much throughout my life, and one clear message is many people have limitations – due to their own egos, delusions, self serving needs & beliefs.
And you can either accept this, and move on…. or you can harbor hurt, betrayal, anger, resentment.
I’ve done all the anger I needed to feel, to heal. So, I choose to accept and move on.
Other people’s limitations and resulting issues, are not my issue to internalise.
I choose peace.
Plus, healthy boundaries.
I know now, it is better to walk alone, than with those who don’t have your best interests at heart.
I’m done with feeling hurt by the actions of others. Continue reading →
It’s interesting to me – to see the survivors on either end of the continuum – as to their thinking about abusers.
On one end, are the survivors who think that being ‘so’ compassionate about abusers, making excuses for them, minimizing their heinous nature, invalidating the harm they intentionally cause…..
And then on the other end…. are the survivors who are full of anger (sometimes suppressed but still evident), rage, they hate abusers with such fury they want them to be suffering back, they want them to burn in hell and fantasise about retribution and God throwing them into hell, or their karma coming back in another life and making them suffer terribly.
Both of these, are ways people cope.
Both of these are places I truly hope people do not stay in, because they are not good places to be, all your life.
And the people at these ends of the continuum do not give healthy advice to others.
Me, I’m in the middle.
I don’t make excuses for abusers. I don’t delude myself that I am ‘compassionate to abusers’ – simply because I can’t handle the truth. I deal with the truth. And then to protect their unhealthy thinking, they demand others see it their way too. And sometimes, they have a sense of superiority over others, who they deem not to be as ‘compassionate’ as they delude themselves into believing about themselves.
I don’t have in me, to hate people into suffering back. I don’t want anyone to suffer. Be in prison to stop someone re-offending, exposing sociopaths for the heinous predators they are to protect people – is wisdom, but in my case, not from a place of revenge, or hate. And it makes me sad to think some survivors will be in this place of anger and hurt, all their lives.