I’ve heard many victims of abuse saying they need justice to be brought against their abuser(s), to have healing.
I don’t understand this.
For me, the only reason why I believe abusers need to be dealt with appropriately, is to expose them, so those who need to know, know what they have done, and also to try to reduce the possibility of the abuser, abusing again.
I don’t need ‘justice’ to heal. Because to be quite frank, nothing that happens to them, takes away what they did to me, or takes away the deep core wounds, or my memories.
My motivation for bringing an abuser to justice, isn’t about me.
And I’m unsure as to whether this is the right way to think about this.
Or whether I just don’t care about myself enough, to believe justice needs to be brought about, for my needs, to know they had their consequences to what they did to me, because what they did to me, does need punishing.
There are some who will say the former and some the latter.
I just don’t feel the need for punishment for some kind of retribution. This is probably why I also don’t agree with vigilante groups, or offenders being targeted in prisons etc. Continue reading