Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


Narcissists, Sociopaths & Psychopaths And Infidelity ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Of all the many kinds of abuse that narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths (I will refer to them as toxic people) choose to inflict on their victims – infidelity is one.

My toxic ex (we are separated) cheated throughout his first marriage and I’ve just been told – cheated throughout ours.

Someone has let me know my ex cheated back before we moved to Australia. I’m not at all surprised. Anyone who can sexually abuse a survivor of severe sexual abuse – is capable of anything.

Infidelity is just one of the many things toxic people do – with no remorse, no conscience, no guilt, no shame, no empathy. And of course – if you confront them – they will act outraged that you would suggest such a thing about them.

My ex has no understanding of love, honesty, decency, care, integrity or anything that is found in decent human beings.

Here are some links:

https://www.psychopathfree.com/articles/why-do-narcissists-and-sociopaths-cheat.374/

https://www.health.com/mind-body/sociopath-traits

https://www.bustle.com/p/13-common-mind-games-sociopaths-play-in-everyday-life-to-watch-out-for-2975623

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/manipulative-lies-sociopath-personality-rebecca-monet

It’s interesting to recently hear friend’s opinions of my toxic ex. How difficult them found him. How he’s ignorant and shallow. Very boring and weird. And he’ll never change. He will wallow in his darkness and feeling like a victim all his life.Β 

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I am moving forward with my life. I’m raising my boys to be the opposite of their father. Continue reading


Not Surprised A Member Of The Narcissist Ministers’s Baptist Church – Has Reached Out To Me For Help

Recently a church member – where the abusive narcissist minister resides – reached out to me – as their church is now “fractured”.

Sadly, it doesn’t surprise me in the slightest. A fractured church is exactly what a narcissist minister will have. There will never be peace, or anything healthy – when a narcissist is in charge.

The person who reached out wanted to know what I endured and how those affected can heal.

I wrote back, explaining narcissism, how it’s not treatable, they do not change, it’s all about his ego, he doesn’t know God, his ego and character disturbed issues are his god. I also explained he would need to be ousted – for that church to heal.

In the past – I prayed for discerning people at that church – to work him out. It seems my prayers were answered. I will continue to pray for their wisdom and discernment on how to proceed. It’s not my responsibility any more. I did all I could to stop people getting hurt.

The Baptists church failed to deal with it appropriately and they have now allowed more people to get hurt. That’s on them, and the narcissist minister.

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Talking About The Heinous Abuse Caused By People With Personality Disorders – Is Not Increasing Mental Illness Stigma ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Talking about the abuse, suffering and harm caused by people with personality disorders – is NOT increasing ‘mental illness stigma’.

Do not dare to try to silence abuse survivors as this is more abuse.

Personality disorders are not an excuse to abuse people.

I do not promote hate, revenge or retaliation – but I do promote the truth about how heinous their abuse is to endure.

Many victims kill themselves due to their heinous abuse. And some victims are killed by these personality disordered people.

The abuse must be discussed.

And info about these people so victims won’t be targeted again. Continue reading


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When Narcissists Try To Claim They Have Complex PTSD = Perpetuate Their Delusional Thinking

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NPD and Complex PTSD are entirely different.

For a start CPTSD isΒ NOT about grandiose, delusional thinking – which is a hallmark trait of NPD ……… yet narcissists will conveniently forget that.

Narcissists haveΒ aΒ DEFICIT ofΒ empathy – another hallmark trait of NPD……. yet those with Complex PTSD are not deficit in empathy and many – like myself – have considerable empathy.

Narcissists are devious, pathological liars…….. those with Complex PTSD are not.

The list goes on.

Sure some trauma survivors have the ‘fight’ traumatology symptom, which is narcissism, but it is about far more than just that one issue. But, I have seen narcissists focus only on that to delude themselves, conveniently ignoring all the other diagnostic criterion.

Narcissists will believe anything to avoid dealing with their true self. Including delude themselves they have Complex PTSD, which is sad – because they continue to be dishonest and will not heal. Which is not what I want for them.

I wish narcissists would face their issues – for themselves and all they harm. Because unlike narcissists, I actually do have an appropriate level of empathy for everyone. Continue reading