Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


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I will be starting 2017, with no faith & no counsellor. And yet, I am looking forward to it ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2017, will be an interesting year. It is certainly not going to start the way I assumed it would. But, that’s life – you cannot predict what will happen. You can only accept what comes and have the resilience to withstand it and make the best of it.

I have made no secret of my faith issues. I am at a point, where I cannot think about it anymore, because it’s too painful. There is no resolving of the issues I feel. So, for now, I am avoiding thinking about it.

My counselling, has ended in a sad way, but….. I am great believer in people revealing who they truly are, in time. And I don’t need counselling anymore.

2017, will be a year – where I learn how to become a professional photographer, get m book finished and published. That’s a lot for me, and will take me out of my current comfort zone.

But, if there’s one thing I am – beyond any doubt – is a survivor. I am stronger now, than I have been over the last 5 years. My resilience levels are stronger. My boundaries are safer and my self esteem is higher, than ever before.

I know I will become a good photographer. I already have a blog, with over 500 views in less than a week, and professional photographers encouraging my work. And I don’t even know what I am doing yet. I am simply relying on the quality of the camera at the moment. Continue reading


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‘Natural Resilience To Major Life Stressors, Not So Common’

http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/publications/observer/obsonline/natural-resilience-to-major-life-stressors-not-as-common-as-thought.html

Complex trauma, which is ongoing severe abuse, within a captivity situation, is one of the biggest life stressors, anyone can endure.

Yet, society demands that abuse and child abuse survivors, just ‘get over it’ and deem them to be weak, if they are not being ‘strong warrior survivors’. And throw out shaming statements like ‘don’t be a victim’. All shaming attitudes.

It has never made sense to me, that anyone who has endured some of the worst life experiences, are supposed to be ‘stronger’ than people who have not endured such impacting suffering.

It’s just another way to shame abuse survivors. And that is really wrong.

I am glad to see research that shows that natural resilience to major trauma, is not common. It takes pressure off survivors of severe abuse and complex trauma, to live up to society’s inappropriate demands.

Compassion and empathy, are vital when considering how complex trauma survivors are coping.

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Please don’t shame survivors, who are not coping in a way deemed to be ‘strong’. It is cruel, harmful and can lead to suicide.

And if you are someone, who feels they are not coping well……… please know I will not shame you for this. I know you have already endured so much and how you are managing, is okay by me.

If you are struggling to get through the day, feeling suicidal, feeling like no-one cares and no-one understands……. please know I do understand, I do have empathy and I am not going to put cruel and inappropriate demands on you. Continue reading