Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

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Dr. Marsha M. Linehan – Expert On Mental Illness Reveals Her Own Fight

From the article….

Marsha Linehan

The patient wanted to know, and her therapist — Marsha M. Linehan of the University of Washington, creator of a treatment used worldwide for severely suicidal people — had a ready answer. It was the one she always used to cut the question short, whether a patient asked it hopefully, accusingly or knowingly, having glimpsed the macramé of faded burns, cuts and welts on Dr. Linehan’s arms:

“You mean, have I suffered?”

“No, Marsha,” the patient replied, in an encounter last spring. “I mean one of us. Like us. Because if you were, it would give all of us so much hope.”

“That did it,” said Dr. Linehan, 68, who told her story in public for the first time last week before an audience of friends, family and doctors at the Institute of Living, the Hartford clinic where she was first treated for extreme social withdrawal at age 17. “So many people have begged me to come forward, and I just thought — well, I have to do this. I owe it to them. I cannot die a coward.” Continue reading


Feedback that gives me hope for my book helping people.

Today, I shared the blog I wrote about how empathy for complex trauma survivors in therapy relationships is vital. And how therapists speaking in a clinical, non ‘normal’ emotions way, flags as unsafe and hinders building enough trust and safety in the therapeutic relationship.

This is the blog https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2015/10/18/i-see-how-talking-about-abusers-with-mental-health-professionals-can-be-harmful-and-why/

I’ve had  a lot of really positive feedback about that blog post, including from therapists.

This was some feedback I received today. I’m aware I have insight that really helps people, and this gives me hope for my book helping people in the same way.

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I am thankful I have insight into my journey and can express that to others, in a meaningful way. Continue reading


When narcissists delude themselves into believing they are INFJ’s.

INFJ – is one of the personality types in the Myers Briggs Personality tests, which are based upon the work of Carl Jung.

I am an INFJ. I have a strong sense of justice, intuition, right and wrong, a capacity for empathy and motivation matters to me. These strengths, are usually far more developed in INFJ’s, than average.

I read an article the other day, how when narcissistic people take these tests, their delusion based answers, can give them a result of being an INFJ.

‘Sensitivity’ is something that is often confused and plays into this delusion. Being oversensitive to criticism, and always reacting badly and immaturely, is narcissism. Whereas, being aware and sensitive of the needs and emotions of others, is empathic sensitivity. There is a huge difference between these. The former, is all about self and self serving. The latter is about others, and others centred.

A popular INFJ page, has posts which are more narcissistic based motivations, than empathy based motivations. They include hurting others, and a sense of entitlement to do that, with no conscience and no remorse.

The posts are often ‘me me me’ based. With little thought as to the effect of this on others. Doesn’t sound empathic to me. Sounds narcissistic to me.

Having considered the posts and the reaction to one post – where I disagreed – it became clear – the admin and other commenters, were in fact narcissistic in their attitudes and responses. They justified their harmful behaviours. Classic narcissism. Continue reading

Managing PTSD & Complex PTSD symptoms, Requires Self Insight ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

A post to my page, about what is required, to manage PTSD and Complex PTSD symptoms.

You need self insight and self honesty, to acknowledge the symptoms, why they are occurring. And then a willingness, to learn to manage the symptoms. Which takes time. But, is worth the effort and needed for a better quality of life.

Lilly ❤

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Hypocrisy & a lack of self insight, is everywhere.

Judgmental people, often claim judgment is wrong. What they really mean is ‘don’t judge me’ but it’s okay for me to judge.

People who call others stupid, are often that themselves. Stupid people, don’t know they are stupid.

Ignorant people, often call others ignorance.

Uneducated people, often call others uneducated. Only strong people know life is meant to be a lifelong learning process.

Nasty people, often call others nasty.

The list is endless.

I see this on social media, a lot.

I often see posts, that I just shake my head at….. because the people concerned have no insight, self insight, self honesty, or the capacity to see how hypocritical they are and how they are projecting the very issues, they have themselves. Continue reading

Some blog posts I share on Twitter, Some I don’t.

I think it’s helpful for anyone following my blog, to know some of my blog posts are advice that may help others.

Some are purely for myself, which may not be something others need, or feel they resonate with.

I don’t share every blog post on Twitter.

I only share the ones I feel may resonate or be helpful.

Some blog posts, are venting, getting my anger, or upset out. Some are when I need to challenge myself and my thinking, behaviours, actions. But, are not intended to be advice for others.

I also don’t believe my blog, my journey and my healing, are what everyone experiences, or needs.

We are all different and we all have different journeys and needs. And I am very aware of that. I have empathy and insight outside of my own journey.

This may be helpful for people to know.

Lilly ❤


Quotes, that show a lack of self insight & self honesty

I see so many unwise, dishonest quotes travelling social media. They truly are bizarre to me. All they show is a lack of self honesty and a lack of self insight.

This quote is one of them…

heart is pure

For any person to believe their heart is pure, is basically saying they are perfect. No-one is perfect. No-one is without thoughts that are not perfectly good. Everyone has thoughts, that are imperfect and no-one is ‘never’ selfish at some point.

It takes courage to admit this.

I absolutely agree, there is a continuum people are on, and too many people are too far up the selfish, self serving continuum………. and some are far less selfish, and far less self serving.

But, no-one is pure. No-one is perfect.

It is an unhealthy ego, that believes their heart is pure and not capable of improvement.

All this quote shows to me, is this black and white thinking issue, many people have. Where they believe in something absolutely and have little self insight, or self honesty.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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