Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

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Jeff Brown – The Buddha Was The Master Of Dissociation

Thank God for people like Jeff Brown. His insight and capacity to discern the toxic and unhealthy thinking out there, mirrors mine and is rare.

I will also add Buddhism also perpetuates victim blaming and re-victimising trauma survivors.

It is nothing but toxic, irrational and unhealthy thinking.

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Now It’s ‘All About Me’ ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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My entire life has been about toxic, selfish, abusive people.

Meeting their needs, tolerating their toxic

and heinous behaviours.

Whilst no-one cared about me.

Well those days are GONE.

Now, it’s ALL ABOUT ME.

My needs, my wellbeing,

what I need to do to get my life on track,

build up my self esteem,

regain my independence,

find healthy people,

find a new relationship.

And this will not just benefit me,

it also benefits my children.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Why It Can Be An Act Of Greater Love For Children – To Stay In A Relationship With A Narcissist ~ Lilly Hope Lucario



One perspective about being in a relationship with a narcissist and having children is….

Some choose to stay to protect their children, because if you split up – the toxic person will get to see the children and the decent parent will not be there to know what’s happening. And the decent parent cannot help the children, if they don’t know what they are being subjected to.

So staying together enables the decent parent to be aware of everything going on.

Plus, there are so many people who suffer through terrible divorces and go through hell trying to co-parent with a narcissist.

And the children suffer the most.

In some (not all) situations – it is an act of greater love for the children, to remain in the relationship.

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I need to emotionally shut down, and no longer be dependent on my therapist.

A lot of stuff happened recently, which led me to feeling abandoned, uncared for and terribly hurt. And she has her reasons and that has to be okay.

But, I’ve come to realise I need to emotionally shut down, and no longer be dependent on my therapist.

I don’t want to care about her anymore. I don’t want to care whether she cares about me. I don’t want to care what she thinks of me. I don’t want to think about her all the time. I don’t want to feel hurt anymore. I don’t want to struggle, not react okay to things and then feel shame.

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25 Obvious & Non Obvious Self Care Issues – Complex Trauma Survivors Struggle With ~ Lilly Hope Lucario



Self care is something spoken about a lot, and seems so very easy. Well, not to complex trauma survivors and in particular childhood complex trauma survivors.

I asked my Facebook community, what were their biggest self care issues, these were some of their responses, which express the obvious self care needs and the not so obvious self care needs, complex trauma survivors struggle with.. Continue reading