Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


Opinions are like assholes…. but they can still hurt ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Discernment, wisdom, rational thinking, empathy…. are all required to have a decent opinion. Especially about issues related to complex trauma.

There are some people who ‘get it’. And many who do not. Yet, they will voice their opinions anyway.

I have learned to ignore them. Mostly. But, when they come from people who are significant in my life, they hurt. And that’s okay – because the person mattered. And when people matter, anything harmful they do, does hurt. That’s normal.

I can also now choose to accept their issues are actually theirs. I know that now.

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“You are a hero with a hero’s heart, to choose to survive and deal and still be a good hearted person”

I shared my blog about the most painful, yet most courageous, most brave thing I have ever done, was to accept the truth about my mother being complicit in all the abuse I endured including the child sexual abuse. And how this takes far more courage, than making excuses, which was far easier.

This was some lovely feedback I received….

“Absolutely! And you are a hero with a hero’s heart, to choose to survive and deal and still be a good hearted person.

Disillusionment is the most difficult emotion to face and get through, and so many choose not to, because it IS so incredibly painful to face and deal with all that it brings.

Enlightenment, waking up, wisdom, growth, is a very painful process because it’s facing our illusions and seeing the truth, it’s disillusioning, and it’s not an easy path. It’s a hero’s path.

Well done Lilly ❤ “

It is such lovely feedback and I will take some time to digest these words. As part of my believing good things about myself, and not dismissing them, as I have always done.

(This is the blog, the comment was in response to

https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2016/10/13/the-most-painful-yet-bravest-thing-i-have-ever-done-lilly-hope-lucario/ )

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Coming back to deeper truths ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

I am aware, this quote is very true for my healing journey – and therefore many other people healing.

I have often thought I am done with processing something, and then it comes back up again, and I process it further. To a deeper level.

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And I don’t think we are ever truly done with processing many things, until we have learned all we needed to learn.

Which I see is a life long journey in many aspects.

I know I will never be done with learning, healing, truth and wisdom seeking.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Great message from Shahida Arabi.

Shahida Arabi, is such an intelligent woman. Depth in emotional intelligence too, which to me, is the most important form of intelligence.

Very blessed to connect with her ❤

Love this message. Love this pic. ❤

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It was 44 years, before I learned this.

This is truly necessary advice, for those who have been abused. In fact, it is good advice for anyone.

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Often those who have been abused, feel it necessary to keep updated about their abusers. It’s a vigilance and fear issue. Understandably so.

There is a quote “keep your friends close and your enemies closer”. I used to believe there was wisdom in this. And I’m sure there is in some circumstances, but not in mine.

Now, I realise I do not need these people in my mind, my head, my thoughts anymore than is absolutely necessary. Continue reading