I have received emails including apologies to me, from both David Susman Ph.D and Dr Cheryl Arutt. Both of whom are highly experienced clinicians and mental health professionals, with impressive careers and much valued by many in the mental health field.
I am always very surprised by apologies and thankful for those seeking to want to sort through problems, and considering what has been said, and a willingness to think about my point of view. And interestingly both of these situations have involved the issue of ‘shame’ – of which I can see I am becoming an ‘anti-shame’ advocate in not wanting abuse/mental health survivors – shamed any more than they already have.
Both have confirmed the value in my work, which was validating. Dr Arutt yesterday stating “I have really appreciated your website, and I think you have a lot of value to add for trauma and PTSD survivors” and that us no longer being connected “would be a loss for me (and my patients and people I refer to sites such as yours)”.
I am always willing to work through situations with genuine people. Whilst maintaining my needed boundaries away from those who are not genuine. Continue reading