Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


Two apologies in the last few weeks, from highly experienced mental health professionals.

I have received emails including apologies to me, from both David Susman Ph.D and Dr Cheryl Arutt. Both of whom are highly experienced clinicians and mental health professionals, with impressive careers and much valued by many in the mental health field.

I am always very surprised by apologies and thankful for those seeking to want to sort through problems, and considering what has been said, and a willingness to think about my point of view. And interestingly both of these situations have involved the issue of ‘shame’ – of which I can see I am becoming an ‘anti-shame’ advocate in not wanting abuse/mental health survivors – shamed any more than they already have.

Both have confirmed the value in my work, which was validating. Dr Arutt yesterday stating “I have really appreciated your website, and I think you have a lot of value to add for trauma and PTSD survivors” and that us no longer being connected “would be a loss for me (and my patients and people I refer to sites such as yours)”.

I am always willing to work through situations with genuine people. Whilst maintaining my needed boundaries away from those who are not genuine. Continue reading


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Knowing I am making a difference for trauma survivors, keeps me motivated.

When my work, insight and sharing has an impact on those in positions of influence, who are highly educated and do considerable work within the mental health field… I know I am making a difference.


I recently had email exchanges with Prof. David Susman Ph.D – who has an impressive biography you can see at http://davidsusman.com/about/

The conversation was about ‘shaming’ within the mental health industry. At first David rejected my insight and views, then he emailed me with an apology and stated my views are accurate and he agrees with them.

These are some of the comments he stated…

“I believe your website and advocacy is very important”

“I would like to offer my apologies to you for my comments. I value your perspectives and certainly see your point of view.”

“I’m so appreciative of your insights and comments. I really agree with everything you said.”

“Your points about shame are also very accurate. I have seen many people withdraw and avoid others because of this. The fear and anxiety is tremendous.”

“Once again, I’m so sorry for my unfeeling comments. I have definitely learned a valuable lesson from our exchange and I won’t be so assertive in the future in insisting that “one size fits all” for therapy and recovery.”

I am thankful for these comments and feedback about my work and my insight.

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It is wonderful to see all the many amazing professionals, clinicians, advocates for mental health, abuse, child abuse.

Dealing with so much pain, grieving, fear, and processing of my severe trauma past, means I am prone to fixating on the darker sides of life and those who cause it, and not finding/seeing that balance of the all the good that so many in this world – are doing.

I’m not going to ‘beat myself up’ about my deeper awareness of the darker sides of humanity, because there are profound reasons. Reasons you don’t just ‘get over’. And grieving trauma to the severity I have endured, is very painful.

But, I do try to see all the many good people, the many working hard, with empathy and compassion, all collectively helping many and doing such needed work.

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