Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


Sadly, a lot of shame/stigma about PTSD & abuse, is caused by sufferers, advocates & those in the mental health industry.

I am certainly seeing a huge amount of stigma created by those who have suffered abuse and those with PTSD.

I am also increasingly seeing stigma and shame created within the mental health profession/industry itself.

And from advocates, who often only care about their own needs/experience.

I am not okay with this and will keep doing what I can to help bring awareness to this.

People who don’t ‘think’ deeply enough, or only care about their own needs/situation and don’t see outside of that, often cause a lot of stigma and damage.

I see cognitive distortions and self serving needs, everywhere. I can only do my little part to help raise awareness of all this.

And I know I will continue to receive opposition and resentment along the way. Continue reading


People have a great capacity to ‘rationalise’ their own behaviours.

Rationalisation, is a cognitive distortion people use, to justify something with illogical reasoning.

As per DSM  – Rationalization occurs “when the individual deals with emotional conflict or internal or external stressors by concealing the true motivations for his or her own thoughts, actions, or feelings through the elaboration of reassuring or self serving but incorrect explanations.

This became very apparent during the conversation with an ex soldier, who wanted to rationalise himself having psychopath traits, and the capacity to switch off emotions during killing and harming people.

He needs to rationalise this as okay – to get the job done and also then rationalising this further, by saying ‘everyone’ has some of this in these ‘psycho traits’, as he calls it.

All completely wrong. I don’t have any capacity to switch off my emotions to cause harm to another human being. I have involuntary (I can’t choose it) dissociation to cope with harm being caused to me, but I don’t ever have the chosen capacity to remove emotions to cause harm. There is a huge difference. But to this ex-soldier, he ‘wants’ to believe these are the same.

Of course rationalisation, is always followed by cognitive dissonance – where you can show someone evidence that proves their thought process and the belief they are holding onto so tightly, is completely wrong, and they will still refuse to let go of their beliefs.

A lot of this is fear and shame based. Continue reading