I am increasingly aware of this very unhealthy need so many have, of protecting those who cause harm, defending them, and attacking and vilifying those who take the courageous path of actually dealing with it and exposing it.
I’ve seen this play out in my own life too many times. Because I have integrity, honesty and courage. One example is an entire church treating me really badly, because I exposed an abusive pastor. My own doctor/counsellor confirmed I had been abused, due to what she herself witnessed at a mediation, as well as the other evidence. Plus confirmed the narcissism and immaturity of the pastor and his wife and how they in her opinion, should not be in ministry. But, it was easier for the weak sheep church people, to defend and protect the abuser pastor. This is a common occurrence in unhealthy churches. As is abuse.
People who have courage and integrity, often get treated badly by those who lack these virtues. It is a terrible human infliction many choose, to protect evil and defend it and lack any integrity and decency to do what is right. And of course, they rationalise this anyway they can, for their own self serving needs. I see that very clearly too.
I see all the harm being done to many who are courageously exposing abusers, paedophiles, sex offenders and the like. They get accused of having bad motivations for exposing them. Weak people will always wrongly turn this courage to expose, into being about revenge etc. When it isn’t. Disordered minds, are everywhere. Continue reading