Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


Had such a laugh with some fun ladies today :)

Met up again today with the group of ladies I was asked to admin a meetup facebook page for. It was such laugh!

It is so nice to spend time with thoughtful, fun women. And women who can talk a little about their lives, and also listen about other people’s lives. But also have a laugh in an appropriate way. Due to having that needed level of emotional maturity.

I am glad to be building more friendships slowly.

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Listened to advice about handling a group situation, and it is working out.

I know to seek advice on issues I am not always sure how to deal with. I asked how to manage a certain situation with an unhealthy, disordered person…. and the advice in counselling, was spot on.

When dealing with unhealthy, personality disordered people, you have to stay one step ahead of their issues, and take none of their issues personally (which I don’t) and do what’s best for ‘all’ concerned. This includes not giving in to the unhealthy person’s issues.

When this a group situation being threatened by divisive, controlling, self serving behaviours – this affects a group. But, often people within the group will likely have also noticed the issues of the person and don’t want that drama in their lives either.

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Spending time with mature, easy going people, feels great :)

Whilst I crave deep connections with people, I am also really enjoying the time I am spending with mature, friendly, uncomplicated, easy going women.

I’ve been walking with two women who are older than myself, a couple of times a week. They chat about their lives, but in an easy going, light hearted, kind, mature, mellow and humorous way. They talk about their lives, but there’s no drama. They like a giggle and can have a giggle about themselves too. I like that. Today, we went to a little café after the walk and had a cup of tea and a chat. It was really nice 🙂

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I don’t intend sharing my journey/past etc, with anyone new in my life. Ever.

I have learned the hard way to never share my past, my diagnosis, or anything related to it…. with anyone from now on.

Nothing good comes from sharing about it with anyone physically in my life. Not in my experience.

My newer friendships I am developing, I will not share anything with them. The most I plan to say, is I have anxiety and that will be it.

I’ve lost so many people from my life due to being open and honest and it also makes me vulnerable to it being used as a way to put me down etc, when something happens. It’s the perfect excuse, as I even found out in counselling, for people to not take responsibility, to blame, project etc.

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