It is true that people can find fault in others, whilst being completely in denial of their own.
It takes maturity and a willing heart, to not just focus on everyone else’s issues, but to look within and see our own, as I have over the last 12 months, in particular.
I have noticed, that some people who talk about narcissism, only refer to other people…..not looking within….and yet that is exactly what a narcissist does.
Dysfunction breeds dysfunction………and narcs will point fingers at others…. parents…. spouses…. family… friends etc….without ever stopping to consider whether they themselves do in fact have narc traits too.
And watch them blow if you ask them to consider if their own views are in fact narcissistic! The narcissistic rage/injury comes right out!
It takes a great deal of courage and lack of ego, to look within, and the humility and vulnerability to do this.
I have blogged about my own issues, how I have changed, the issues I clung onto and now see where this was my own issues, and wanted to change, with a willing heart to do this. I have blogged about how I have felt really hurt by something that someone has said about me, that in fact turned out to be correct. And I have owned this, blogged about this, been honest about this and grown from this. I don’t only focus on the issues of others.
But, a narcissistic, egotistic heart won’t look within. Often driven by fear and shame, as I see so clearly occurring everywhere.
You cannot reason with dysfunction that is hell bent on clinging onto their dysfunction. And of course, everyone else is wrong, stupid, narcissistic for having a completely different view and how dare you voice that!!
You can only give an alternative view, and hope someone reads it and will think more deeply about it.
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