Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


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Without the capacity for empathy, advice is never wise.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/tech-support/201511/4-things-empath-never-says-and-you-shouldnt-either?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

The capacity for empathy, is not common. Most people can have sympathy, and some not even that.

I always know when I am dealing with someone who either has, or does not have, the capacity for empathy, by Continue reading


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Asked to do a reading at church…. So had to say why I couldn’t.

Having anxiety and PTSD, means the last thing I want to do when in new environments, is public speaking.

It’s only my third visit to church and the minister asked me if I would the Bible reading. I panicked immediately and said I couldn’t do it, as I have anxiety issues. I felt bad that I couldn’t do it. Had anxiety all the way through the service.

At the end of the service, when the minister came and spoke to us, I apologised for being unable to do the reading and told her I have PTSD. She was really nice about it and I could feel myself starting to get emotional. Once she stopped speaking to my sons, we swiftly left, because the last thing I want at this new church, is Continue reading


No, I won’t just ‘look for those who are helping’, in Paris.

These terrible murders committed in Paris, have led to a lot of posts and quotes on social media.

One popular one, is a quote about ‘looking for the helpers’. Which I understand, but this is purely one of those ‘don’t focus on unpleasant things, and just focus on the nice stuff’ quotes. To make life easier.

I won’t do that, because the people who’s lives have been forever changed, those who are grieving and are traumatised – need people to NOT ignore them. They need people to stand with them, to know they are suffering and are traumatised. They need support. They need love. They need compassion. They do not need ignoring. Continue reading


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Paris extremist terrorist attacks…….. and cue the racism.

I am an advocate against all forms of abuse. This includes racism.

I’ve already been linked on twitter to a racist post, stating ‘Muslim rampage’. So that person has been blocked.

These terrorist attacks, do not represent all Muslim people and I do not ‘generalise’ all Muslims in the way so many racist people do.

Racism, homophobia, and all other forms of abuse, are not condoned, enabled or excused by me.

I will also add, I fully believe terrorists have no religion, just hatred and a desire to do evil.


I am so thankful, to help LGBTIQ, about correct Biblical interpretation.

I realise my understanding of LGBTIQ not being sin and why…. will fall on deaf ears with most church people.

I also realise it is a hard job speaking up about this with secular society and people who do not believe in God.

But, I feel the need to speak up where I can. And I do. And I know I will encounter people disagreeing with me.

When I do speak up, it sometimes is exactly what someone needs to hear, as happened today. For that, I am thankful and it helps me to realise, I need to continue.

I spoke up today and it was confirmed by a man, that it “meant a lot to him”, to read my views and “this gay guy can get along with you any time any where. Thank you for speaking out! More need to. If more were like you we would not have to put up with the likes of the gay bashing ACL”

I am so sad to know how much ‘gay bashing goes on’ by church people and the Australian Christian Lobby.

But, I am glad to be able to help this man and anyone else, who may have read it. Continue reading


Typical paedophile attitude. They don’t believe child sexual abuse, is wrong, or a criminal act.

http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/queensland/child-abuse-royal-commission-headmaster-didnt-think-fondling-was-criminal-act-20151112-gkxb1c.html?&utm_source=social&utm_medium=facebook&utm_campaign=nc&eid=socialn:fac-14omn0037-optim-nnn:nonpaid-25062014-social_traffic-all-organicpost-nnn-btimes-o&campaign_code=nocode&promote_channel=social_facebook

This confirms my suspicions about the child sexual abuse being condoned and enabled for years at St. Pauls School and Brisbane Grammar School.

Paedophile rings, are how it is able to be continued. And these rings are more common than is realised.

To say you did not know fondling a child’s genitals, is a criminal act, is typical of the type of attitude and thinking, paedophiles have. They don’t believe what they do is wrong, or illegal.

And this man is a head teacher of a school. They would know any form of child sexual abuse, is illegal. Continue reading


Judge asks rape victim “Why didn’t you keep your knees together”. Absolute victim blaming/shaming.

http://www.aww.com.au/latest-news/news-stories/canadian-judge-apologises-after-shocking-rape-remarks-23103

Read this article about a judge who asked a rape victim “why didn’t you keep your knees together?” Appalling, disgusting and absolute victim blaming and victim shaming. Taking the responsibility of this rape from the rapist, to the victim.

This judge has been forced to apologise, due to complaints made.

This women has already been traumatised, in one of the worst ways possible, then Continue reading


Had such a laugh with some fun ladies today :)

Met up again today with the group of ladies I was asked to admin a meetup facebook page for. It was such laugh!

It is so nice to spend time with thoughtful, fun women. And women who can talk a little about their lives, and also listen about other people’s lives. But also have a laugh in an appropriate way. Due to having that needed level of emotional maturity.

I am glad to be building more friendships slowly.

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