I am very aware people often are a result of the experiences in life they have faced.
So when dealing with someone who consistently fails to show emotion about what abusive people can do and fails to understand the pain and suffering caused…..
Coupled with their continual need to term abusive people as ‘okay’ and have clear issues as to others describing them differently and more negatively….
It makes me wonder why?
Do they have issues from their own personal lives that cloud their own judgment and views? Have they had some abusive family member or someone close to them – do despicable things and so that affects their own judgment? Is that why they are so adamant abusive people should only be viewed ‘their’ way? Is this why they are so against labelling because they don’t want their own relative/friend etc…labelled? is this why they really dislike the view that people ‘protect’ and ‘enable’ abusers?
Do they have more invested in the way they think, than I realise? Is this in fact a personal issue and not actually about me at all, or what I need?