Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Always interesting reactions to stating racism, homophobia etc, are linked to psychopath traits & low IQ.

There is so much evidence and research out to confirm racism, homophobia, plus some conservative mindsets, are linked to low IQ and the psychopath continuum traits of lack of empathy, lack of conscience, lack of remorse.

If you express this, the reactions are very indicative of where people are at. The ones with these issues, will defend their right to be racist, be homophobic, be abusive, bullies, basically any way they can. They rationalise, justify, use ridiculous reasons.

People defend their own issues, their disordered thinking, their dysfunction, with all their might and often in ways that are quite bizarre and no insight into that. Often, the greater the disordered thinking, the mightier the fight to defend it.

It makes absolute sense to me that low IQ, low empathy, low conscience etc are significant factors in racism, homophobia and many hard line conservative views. But those who have these issues, will often be outraged at truth behind their issues. Cognitive dissonance prevails, and the person getting too close to the truth so many try so hard to ignore…. is attacked. Continue reading


Interestingly, the worst bullying and harassment I have had on social media, has been from ex military.

Firstly, I will state that many ex military are wonderful people. In no way, am I generalising all ex military, or current military as the same.

The worst bullying and harassment on social media, has been from ex military. And I see why. The military attracts and develops some people into beings with little conscience, little empathy and an ability to destroy people – with no remorse, with the ‘reason’ of protecting their country. It gives them the belief that this psychopathic behaviour, is okay. The military develop and grow people into fighting machines, with pack mentality, where retaliation and revenge are part of the job. They are taught/forced to suppress all emotions, all sense of conscience, all sense of remorse. All the hallmarks of highly disordered/unhealthy people. And the better the psychopath they become, the more they are hailed as being a military success.

I’ve read so many articles on the internet about how the military has higher than average levels of narcissists /sociopaths/ psychopaths and it’s easy to see why. And how many will be further up that continuum than average.

Plus you only have to read the appalling statistics on sexual violence perpetrated within the military, to see what goes on even within their own comrades. Quote “Last year, soldiers were 15 times more likely to be raped by a comrade then killed by an enemy.” http://mic.com/articles/72503/pentagon-releases-startling-new-statistics-on-military-sexual-assault. Again behaviour by people with no empathy, no conscience, no remorse. And willing to harm others, easily. More facts about sexual violence/abuse perpetuated by military @ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/military-sexual-assault-facts_b_4281704.html.

And even the ‘fight’ trauma response in itself, is narcissistic. See http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/#!about1/c2bg

I think the military destroys many people.

My husband works with a few fellow cops, who were ex military and they have confirmed how higher levels of violence, bullying, and nasty behaviour does go on, how many have a ‘chip on their shoulder’ and they have seen this for themselves. How they treat their families badly and feel so entitled in their actions.

It makes sense to me how this occurs, when you consider the type of training and combat training they endure. And the psychological implications of this. Continue reading

Psychopathy is the the No1 Health Crisis. As per an expert in Public Pathology Education.

The reason psychopaths, narcissists & sociopaths are the No1 health crisis, are because they destroy millions of lives.

60 million victims in just the US alone, are being harmed by psychopaths.

Lack of conscience, lack of remorse, lack of empathy are prevalent in all these highly abusive types.

And they do destroy lives.

Dr Robert Hare – the leading psychopath expert, even admits how many times he himself has been fooled by psychopaths.


Just shows how if the leading experts admit they are fooled, just how many counsellors and mental health professionals will be fooled. As well as all the victims.

These people hide well amongst us, as per Dr Robert Hare.

All narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths are predators. What they do, is not by accident. It is intentional and they target people.

Interesting to see someone else state Cardinal Pell is sociopathic & everything else I already knew.

Just watched 60 minutes and the man personally appointed by the Pope to deal with child sexual abuse within the Catholic Church…. and hear him say exactly what I have already worked out….

He described Pell as sociopathic, lacking in any empathy, or conscience, a known and proven liar, capable of showing absolutely no remorse, lie effortlessly etc and treat abuse victims in a completely disgusting (sociopathic) way. And clearly Pell knew of abuse by priests and supported them and enabled them.

I agree with this man appointed by Pope Francis, state Pell should be facing legal action/consequences and needs removing from any position of authority immediately, by the Pope. And if the Pope has any balls and conscience, he will. Continue reading


Good to see some Christians call evil for what it is, and define the traits.


I am really emotional reading this, as it completely validates everything I have been saying and everything I have seen and know.

by Leslie Vernick

As Christian counselors, pastors and people helpers we often have a hard time discerning between an evil heart and an ordinary sinner who messes up, who isn’t perfect, and full of weakness and sin.

I think one of the reasons we don’t “see” evil is because we find it so difficult to believe that evil individuals actually exist. We can’t imagine someone deceiving us with no conscience, hurting others with no remorse, spinning outrageous fabrications to ruin someone’s reputation, or pretending he or she is spiritually committed yet has no fear of God before his or her eyes.

The Bible clearly tells us that among God’s people there are wolves that wear sheep’s clothing (Jeremiah 23:14; Titus 1:10; Revelations 2:2). It’s true that every human heart is inclined toward sin (Romans 3:23), and that includes evil (Genesis 8:21; James 1:4). We all miss God’ mark of moral perfection. However, most ordinary sinners do not happily indulge evil urges, nor do we feel good about having them. We feel ashamed and guilty, rightly so (Romans 7:19–21). These things are not true of the evil heart.

Below are five indicators that you may be dealing with an evil heart rather than an ordinary sinful heart.  If so, it requires a radically different treatment approach.

1. Evil hearts are experts at creating confusion and contention.

They twist the facts, mislead, lie, avoid taking responsibility, deny reality, make up stories, and withhold information. (Psalms 5:8; 10:7; 58:3; 109:2–5; 140:2; Proverbs 6:13,14; 6:18,19; 12:13; 16:20; 16:27, 28; 30:14; Job 15:35; Jeremiah 18:18; Nehemiah 6:8; Micah 2:1; Matthew 12:34,35; Acts 6:11–13; 2 Peter 3:16)

2. Evil hearts are experts at fooling others with their smooth speech and flattering words.

But if you look at the fruit of their lives or the follow through of their words, you will find no real evidence of godly growth or change. It’s all smoke and mirrors. (Psalms 50:19; 52:2,3; 57:4; 59:7; 101:7; Proverbs 12:5; 26:23–26; 26:28; Job 20:12; Jeremiah 12:6; Matthew 26:59; Acts 6:11–13; Romans 16:17,18; 2 Corinthians 11:13,14; 2 Timothy 3:2–5; 3:13; Titus 1:10,16).

3. Evil hearts crave and demand control, and their highest authority is their own self-reference.

They reject feedback, real accountability, and make up their own rules to live by. They use Scripture to their own advantage but ignore and reject passages that might require self-correction and repentance. (Romans 2:8; Psalms 10; 36:1–4; 50:16–22; 54:5,6; 73:6–9; Proverbs 21:24; Jude 1:8–16).

4. Evil hearts play on the sympathies of good-willed people, often trumping the grace card.

They demand mercy but give none themselves. They demand warmth, forgiveness, and intimacy from those they have harmed with no empathy for the pain they have caused and no real intention of making amends or working hard to rebuild broken trust. (Proverbs 21:10; 1 Peter 2:16; Jude 1:4).

5. Evil hearts have no conscience, no remorse.

They do not struggle against sin or evil—they delight in it—all the while masquerading as someone of noble character. (Proverbs 2:14–15; 10:23; 12:10; 21:27,29; Isaiah 32:6; Romans 1:30; 2 Corinthians 11:13–15)

If you are working with someone who exhibits these characteristics, it’s important that you confront them head on. You must name evil for what it is. The longer you try to reason with them or show mercy towards them, the more you, as the Christian counselor, will become a pawn in his or her game.

They want you to believe that: Continue reading

I cried…. for all past victims & all potential future victims. Brett Peter Cowan had apppeal refused.

Praise God!


There is no way this monster should ever be released. He needs to remain in prison for the rest of his natural life.

I cried – sobbed, when I read this…. for every past victim, including the Morcombe’s and for all future victims that would have been, had this monster been released.

I truly hope and pray this brings some peace to the Morcombe family and all other victims.

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This news about Baby Gammy’s paedophile father, does not surprise me, at all.


So the convicted paedophile, who abandoned his son, wants access to funds set up to care for him. Doesn’t surprise me, at all.

Many paedophiles have psychopathic/narcissistic traits….. exploitative, no empathy, no remorse, no guilt, no conscience, entitlement, criminal behaviour. Sexual contact with a child, is always criminal as well and intentional abuse and completely immoral.

I think it is disgusting that the twin sister was allowed to remain in this paedophile’s care.. it is massive neglect on the part of those involved. The do-gooders and paedophile sympathisers/enablers.

Now, he is showing more of his true colours, wanting money that is not his, and was intended to care for his son that he chose to abandon because he has down syndrome and did not fulfil his paedophile child fantasy. Continue reading

Belle Gibson – typical narcissistic psychopath type – pathological lying, exploitative, no remorse, no empathy, no guilt, acting the victim.

Belle Gibson intentionally exploited many. And she intentionally exploited vulnerable people – those battling cancer. That is despicable.

She lied about everything. Then when exposed for the liar she is, tried to blame a ‘bad childhood’. But, her mother has confirmed, this is more lies too. Which does not surprise me at all. And I am far more inclined to believe her mother, when Belle is already proven to be a pathological liar, with no empathy, or remorse.


She meets many criteria for a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath. And even described herself as a psychopath once.

Millions fell for all her lies. All her exploiting. They are the true victims, not Belle Gibson.

I see posts about her, and some people have misplaced compassion, want to make excuses for her, want to focus far more on her issues and want to believe more of her lies, being groomed further by the predatory/manipulative behaviours she has already duped many with. These people don’t realise they are being groomed and duped too. Continue reading

Jill Meagher died, because the parole board fucked up, again.


This happens all the time…….. the parole boards, the people who decide whether someone is fit to leave prison, they fuck up all the time…….. and more deaths occur, more rapes occur, more children are abused and killed.

Same happened with Daniel Morcombe’s killer. He was let out of prison with them knowing – even his own psychologist knowing – he would rape and hurt more children, only this time – he killed him too.

These people who let these monsters out of prison, back into society – have the blood of those killed – on their hands.

They are responsible for protecting society and they fuck it up and let people get hurt and die.

And they will have all sorts of excuses and reasons to hide behind.

Plus there’s all the ‘do-gooders’ – who claim these people can be ‘rehabilitated’ – which is BS, waste all this money on them, and believe they ‘might be rehabilitated enough’ – to not be a threat to society.

Plus, there are those who think – while they are in prison – let’s glorify them with art exhibitions, and make them feel special and worthy of all this attention – like my ex-counsellor believes. Fuck how that makes their victims feel.

But, do these people really think about the reality of what these monsters really are, about the victims, about future victims?

No they don’t.

They don’t give a fuck about the victims.

It’s all about the perpetrators rights, needs, lies, manipulation.

A friend of mine, knew one of these disgusting human trafficking individuals..

29 arrests in online human trafficking sting…..

A friend of mine, worked with one of these. He was a nurse. Yep, a nurse. And she had no idea what he really was. Just shows how covert and manipulative these sociopaths/psychopaths can be. They can be any profession, often those where they can get close to vulnerable people.