I know I have held onto guilt for things I have done wrong, where I have let people down. I’m someone who will readily apologise, and I have so often apologised for what is not my responsibility. But that is due to child abuse.
This was a post I wrote for my page, to let people know, none of us are perfect, we all let people down unintentionally, but it’s how we deal with it, that matters.
How to deal with the guilt of knowing we have let someone down.
We all let someone down at some point, no-one is perfect, and the fact that we didn’t intend to, and we do have remorse – is the important part.
I’ve let people down and not been perfect, and I’m still not perfect. I mess up, just like everyone can and does.
When I know I have let someone down, I will apologise and ask how I can sort it out, how I can make it right.
I don’t have that ‘tough luck’ attitude, because that is wrong.
Then, once I have done all that I can to make it right, the important part is letting go of any guilt, because we can’t hold on to that forever.
If the person won’t accept our apology or our offering to sort it out and make it right, then we are not responsible for that. We can’t make them accept our genuine apology.
And we also need to do what we can, to make sure, we don’t repeat that same issue, as this is part of having genuine remorse.
All these human interactions, are things I did not learn growing up, because my family of origin are so abusive and dysfunctional,.
So I had to learn them as an adult.
And this is why I am sharing this…… because I know so many people suffer with these intense emotions and feelings of guilt and shame and don’t know how to manage them.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario ❤