Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Paedophiles & Child Sex Offenders could face life in prison in NSW Australia …. good. I agree with this.

Read more at http://www.mamamia.com.au/news/paedophiles-maximum-penalty/#HMdBXizeaZfUmxMu.99

Child sex offenders in NSW face life imprisonment under tougher new laws.

Previously, the maximum sentence for sexual intercourse with a child under 10 was 25 years — but last night, NSW Parliament passed legislation increasing the maximum sentence to life.

The move honours a NSW government election promise.

“These are the worst crimes against the most vulnerable in our community, our children, our young people and too often sentences handed down don’t align with community expectation,” NSW Attorney-General Gabrielle Upton said earlier this year of the amendment.

AAP reports other child sex offences have also been included in the Standard Non-Parole Period scheme, which provides judiciary guidance with sentencing.

“(I)t sends a very clear message that the sentences that should guide judges when they are making decisions, are longer sentences,” Upton told ABC News.

“That’s responding to community expectation, that people who violate children, our most vulnerable members of our community should be punished and punished harshly.”

The President of Adults Suriviving Child Abuse welcomes the news laws.

“For too long the crime of child sexual abuse has been minimised, both in public perception and in criminal justice responses,” Dr Cathy Kezelman told Mamamia.

“Custodial sentences for convicted sex offenders need to reflect the seriousness of the crime and the harm it reaps on victims, their families and our communities. Many victims have a life sentence, especially when they are unable to access and afford the help they need to recover, as sadly is often the case.” Continue reading

I truly hope Daniel Morcombe’s killer, does not get let out.

I knew this would continue…. the appeals for this ‘man’ to be released from jail.

He is not rehabilitated, and he has already severely sexually abused many children, left one young child for dead, and killed Daniel Morcombe and has NO remorse.

He is a opportunistic predator, with no remorse, no conscience, no empathy, no guilt.

If he gets let out – he will very likely do it again. He is a severe threat to society and to children. And knowing how badly the legal system already fails at keeping predators locked up, I have a horrible feeling Cowan will be let out. Continue reading

I do have increasing peace, within my heart and soul….. due to how I view abusers.

I educate people about abuse and abusers …..because I know it is needed for healing/recovery.

I would not be where I am at now ……. had I not learned all about the abuse I endured, why and how it affected me. And I learned most of this myself.

I’ve been severely sexually abused over prolonged periods of time, raped repeatedly by a paedophile and a psychopath (different trauma at different ages) who kept me in captivity for several years and tortured me…..and had a mother who set me up to be sexually abused…

It’s all pretty horrific.

And I am at a point in my healing…….where I can view them as being very sick and ill individuals, with severe mental health issues and they do indeed need dealing with, locking up to stop them from re-offending – for the future victims sakes, and for their own.

I do not agree, or condone people ignoring, enabling, minimizing what they do. Or chucking cheap grace at the situation. All that is also darkness.

But, I have no desire for revenge and never have. I don’t wish bad things on them. I only want what is appropriate, and needed.

I have a level of compassion for anyone who has such darkness within them….. as I don’t want anyone to be that way.

I wish everyone could be healthy and know what is good and lovely and be kind human beings.

The whole thing makes me sad. For all concerned.

I choose to not hold bitterness and darkness about them……. in my own heart and soul.

And I have increasing peace in my heart and soul.


I still have my own grieving emotions, I do need to have and express. And I will grieve all my life….. this lessoning over time.

But, I do believe the way I view abusers……. is healthy, and is part of healing.

A comment on my healing page from a mental health professional, about my blog post I wrote expressing how I feel about my abusers…

 “I commend you for your breathtaking compassionate view toward your abusers”.

I am thankful to now be able to model… empathy and compassion.

It has been a huge journey, to get to this point….. a journey I had to really want and persist in, and I am thankful to share it.


Convicted sex offender/paedophile legally allowed to keep surrogate baby.



Well, actually it is believable and a true indication of our sick and unhealthy society – that allows our most vulnerable citizens – children – to be so unsafe.

This is paedophile/sex offender rights – being more important the safety, wellbeing and rights of children.

This is perpetrator protecting/enabling – clearly on display.

This is neglect, abuse and shows how fucked up our society, legal systems are.

This ‘man’ and his wife, abandoned the twin due to downs syndrome. But, at least she is safer.

Paedophiles and repeat sex offenders cannot be rehabilitated – there is more evidence of that now, than any that says they can.

This little girl – legally allowed to remain in the care of a known, convicted sex offender/paedophile – who committed a ‘string of sexual offences (they are just the ones he was caught for) – will be unsafe every day of her life now, until she leaves home.

I hate this fucked up society in which I have to reside.