Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

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Finding joy in beauty…. where beauty is seldom seen or appreciated

“Mum, you’ve gone bark…..ing mad”

~ my 14 year old, joking with me🙂

I have a thing about tree bark. I made a decision a few years ago, to focus and see the beauty all around me. I don’t find joy or peace in people… so I turned my attention to beauty in nature and all God provides.

I love sunsets and sunrises. I love the beach and the mountains. I love all the many magnificent leaves and flowers. It’s why I now love gardening.

Here in Australia, the many different trees have amazing bark. Very different, from very rugged and gnarly, to very smooth. Many different textures and I love the variety.

I take notice of this, as I go for walks with my boys and my dog. It brings me some joy.

I love tree bark…. and if that makes “barking mad”, I’m okay with it🙂

It’s an appreciation of beauty and some mindfulness, that helps my emotional wellbeing.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Passive aggressive behaviour…. is best ignored ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


Passive aggressive behaviour, is narcissistic behaviour. It is a cowardly attempt to criticise someone, yet make it not look like it comes from a mean hearted person.

It’s the kind of covert bullying type behaviour, many will not realise is toxic.

But, when you consider why someone would not choose to comment in a positive manner, and only choose to comment to criticise, it is easy to see the heart of the issue. They can make the effort to criticise, but can’t make the effort to write something positive…

Passive aggressive people, also sometimes like to start off with a ‘positive’ and then add a “but…. ” and then the real reason they are commenting comes out.

“Behind the smile, a hidden knife!”

― Ancient Chinese saying describing

passive-aggressive behavior

When you have intuition, it is easy to work unhealthy toxic people out. They want to feel better, by bringing other people down. And sometimes in a cowardly, covert manner. They want to make it look like they are ‘nice’, but really underneath it, is a unhappy, narcissistic need, to hurt someone else. And these people can even delude themselves they are being nice, and offering ‘advice’, but that’s a lie they tell themselves. People can rationalise their unhealthy behaviours easily. I see it all the time. Continue reading


I have upgraded my account on WordPress, to remove all of their inappropriate advertising.

On the basic free plan with WordPress, I have absolutely no control over the advertising WordPress choose on each of my blogs.

Some of the advertising is really inappropriate to my blog.

So, I have upgraded my account, and started paying a small monthly amount, to remove all advertising selected by WordPress.

I don’t need to do this, but I want to, and I am willing to pay to do this.

There should now be no advertising showing on my blogs, when people read them.

This shows my dedication to my viewers, as I do not want anything triggering or upsetting shown on my blogs – even thought that was not in my control.

My viewers are very special to me❤ Continue reading


A Must Visit Complex Trauma & PTSD Resource ~ Open Forest LLC

I feel very honoured and very thankful, to have been asked to share this article, by Joan Swart – Psy D @ Open Forest LLC


The importance of a good mental health online resource is undisputed. It is widely accessible, free or low cost, and usually easy to use. Together with an incredible amount of insightful information to support sufferers of PTSD, the “Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD” website has won awards and showcase plenty of positive testimonials to prove the confidence of professionals and users. But, before we delve further into this valuable resource, a bit more about the prominence of PTSD.

The effects of trauma are more widespread than you think

It is estimated that 70 percent of adults in the U.S. have experienced some kind of traumatic event at least once in their lives. This equates to about 225 million people, of which up to one-out-of-five go on to develop PTSD. This means that there are approximately 45 million individuals in the U.S. alone who were or are struggling with PTSD. Furthermore, about one-out-of-nine women develop PTSD, nearly twice as likely as men.

The cost resulting from PTSD is astronomical

As one can imagine, the annual cost to society regarding healthcare services, loss of productivity and quality of life, disruptions to families and communities, and intergenerational effects are astronomical. PTSD is a psychobiological disorder. This means that it is associated with physical and biological changes, such as brain function and hormonal imbalances, as well as emotional and thought disturbances. The development and symptoms of PTSD are so varied that it is sometimes overlooked or misdiagnosed.

The onset and symptoms of PTSD are varied

Some cases of PTSD may be delayed, with only subtle symptoms showing up initially and more severe symptoms emerging months after the traumatic event. Symptoms are diverse, with official classifications listing up to 28 criteria components. These include intense and unwanted recurring memories of the event, nightmares, emotional numbness, intense guilt or worry, angry outbursts, feeling on edge, and avoiding thoughts and situations that are reminders of the trauma.

Although different people seem to develop PTSD in various ways, the effect of traumatic events appears to be cumulative. This means that every time a trauma is experienced, the probability of developing PTSD and the intensity of the symptoms are likely to increase. Taking into account that 26 percent of children in the U.S. will witness or experience a traumatic event before they turn four, the chances of PTSD increase dramatically. Certain settings and contexts further multiply the risk, such as exposure to combat, domestic abuse, sexual assault, imprisonment, terrorism, gang activities, natural disasters, and severe personal loss (e.g. employment, housing, spouse, child). Continue reading

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Article/Blog Submissions for my Website – Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I have received numerous requests to have articles and blogs published on my Website, both from professionals and survivors.

So, I am setting this up, as a trial, to see how this may further help viewers of the Website.

Website @ http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/

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For submissions, email me at healingcomplexptsd2@outlook.com

~ Lilly Hope Lucario



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