Standing up to bullies – Positive Action For PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder UK

I have had many people now come forward and confirm they have been abused by Simon Buckden.

(see my Facebook page for more info https://www.facebook.com/HealingFromComplexTraumaAndPTSDAndCPTSD )

I am raising awareness continually – as I hope to reduce the amount of abuse, to help stop this man and to help reduce the amount of money being conned out of people.

The abusive CEO of that page Simon Bucken – has been systematically abusing anyone who stands up to him.

And I have PROOF OF ALL OF THIS.

He has abused community members on my page, threatened a woman, called people liars, cyber bullied me, and harassed and attacked other PTSD pages/admins.

Now, because they know I have proof, they have deleted all their abusive content. But, no admitting of any of their abuse, at all.

Duncan Bannatyne OBE – a well UK well known Philanthropist/Author/Entrepreneur – confirmed exactly what Simon Buckden is – calling him a fake, who uses money he claims is for raising awareness of PTSD – for his own expenses and is not mentally well stated this…

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duncan_Bannatyne

This Best Selling Author and Public Speaker Richard McCann – was abused by Simon when Richard’s wife has cancer https://twitter.com/iCanInspire

<Former friends of Simon’s, who have been used and abused by him, are coming forward and confirming what he has done to them.

Simon – is a dangerous man. Who is capable of threatening women and harassing and bullying people with PTSD.

Simon – is a very unwell man, with far more issues than PTSD. And he clearly couldn’t care less for those who do have it.

He even allowed my name to be exposed on his page – even though it puts the safety of my family and I at risk. It was a lie and not my correct name one of their supporters made up to bully and lie about me, but Simon believed it was my name.

But, now they have conceded and removed all their abusive content because they know I have evidence of all their abuse to myself and to others.

Simon – had such a massive ego – he has even undiagnosed me with PTSD he claims I don’t have it. I think my doctor and the psychiatrist who both diagnosed me – may disagree.

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But, I outsmarted them, because I know how these abusive types work and I know you need evidence.

I will be continuing with the formal complaint to Facebook, Twitter and to whoever governs Not for Profit organisations in the UK. And contacting the police – which my husband can help me with as he is a police officer.

But, I am content so far, with what is occurring, to raise awareness of a dodgy organisation that is fooling and conning people – who don’t care about PTSD, at all.

When you have the courage for your convictions, and empathy and compassion for others, it wills you to take the right action, even if criticised by a few, although I have has good support as well.

Meeting up with a friend tomorrow and really looking forward to it.

I haven’t been out much over the last few months, PTSD symptoms and isolating stuff pretty bad, hives, anxiety.

A lovely friend contacted me and asked about catching up tomorrow, which was such good timing, because I have been feeling so much better yesterday and today and feel up to getting out.

I know when things are ‘up’ to make the most of it, as it may not stay that way, as severe abuse related PTSD often cycles around and as new memories and new and deeper understand about the severe abuse I have endured, means I am so low at times and it takes time for me to recover.

So, I am going to take this opportunity to get out, interact in the world, talk to my friend about what’s happening with her in her life and connect.

Really looking forward to tomorrow!

:-D

You can’t heal if you don’t have the tools/medical help to heal, emotional/physical/mental health.

There is no difference in needing coping/healing tools and appropriate medical health, for either physical illness, or emotional illness, or mental health illness.

Health is health, illness is illness, in any form.

If a person is suffering a physical illness – eg heart problems, cancer, diabetes, they require specialised treatment, education about how to cope and manage the illness, medical help and support. If they do not receive this, the illness does not improve, often will worsen and can result in death.

This is no difference to recovery/management/treatmnent of physical illness….to recovery/management/treatment for emotional health due to abuse/trauma and mental illness, such as PTSD, Bipolar etc.

No-one can heal, manage, cope, treat – if they do not know HOW.

Take PTSD, I have been professionally diagnosed with this by two people, a doctor and a psychiatrist. Unofficially I also have Complex PTSD.

PTSD, will not just go away, if the suffer doesn’t know how to heal, recover, cope, manage.

It would continue to worsen, and could lead to death, as PTSD when severe is a life threatening illness.

PTSD like all and any other illness – requires appropriate health treatment, needs education, coping techniques, sometimes medication, support and advice.

Only then, is there any hope for it to lesson, or to recover.

How a day can turn from a crappy start – to truly wonderful!

My day started pretty badly, but improved considerably. I realised people have their different opinions on what I do, and that does not have to have any impact on me, or my mood, or my understanding of situations. My self esteem is not tied to anyone else’s opinion of me. I choose to reject any hurt ego/trigger issues and embrace self esteem and be secure in my intentions and capacity to do right. No matter what you do, there will always be critics and that only has to bother me, if I let it.

After that, I felt great!

In the afternoon, spent some quality time with my husband and my boys. We only went for a walk, with the boys on their bikes and to the park, but it was a lovely day, sun shining, watching my boys have fun, getting out and having some fresh air. I started off with hives, but they weren’t too bad and didn’t detract from enjoying watching my family have fun and just having quality family time.

I am increasingly finding the simple, free things in life, more and more to be all I need. I know what God already provides for is, is enough. Continue reading

Combat related PTSD too often turns into bullies, narcissists & domestic violence so common.

There is a lot of research about combat related PTSD and how ex military are more prone to becoming violent, aggressive, narcissistic/sociopathic behaviours, and domestic violence is far too common with Combat PTSD.

(Please note – I am only referring to the abusive combat PTSD ex-military. I am very aware there are many who are not abusive, so this post, is not to be confused as a description of all being this way, at all).

Having received cyber bullying, harassment, along with others who were threatened, attacked, from a page from the founder;

Simon Buckden of ‘Positive Action For PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder’, who is ex military, I decided to do some research.

IT HAS BEEN BROUGHT TO MY ATTENTION THAT THIS PAGE ^ ARE ALSO STALKING AND HARASSING ANOTHER UK PTSD PAGE

I have always been a huge supporter of ex military with PTSD receiving more support than they do, but in all reality no-one receives enough support for PTSD regardless of the reasons for it. And there are many more people with PTSD & Complex PTSD from abuse, and child abuse, than military.

There is also this notion by many combat PTSD sufferers, that combat is the only ‘real’ cause of PTSD and the worst. Which is absolutely rubbish and this is simply their ego and need to be victims. I have seen these attitudes on Combat PTSD sites.

There are also those who have non combat related PTSD – who believe that military ‘know’ the risks to their physical and mental health and are aware of what can occur – so it is their choice to risk this. Whereas, those who have PTSD from abuse – in no way had a ‘choice’ to be abused or end up with PTSD.

I personally, like to not have these opinions, and just feel compassion for anyone who has PTSD.

There is a lot of research to support that Combat PTSD sufferers, are more aggressive, violent, abusive, and there is far too much domestic violence occurring in their families – of which many spouses and children then end up abused and many have PTSD.

The stigma attached to PTSD – largely comes from all this abuse & violence within the military and how society views PTSD – as ‘a walking time bomb’ for being violent or murderers etc.

It is easy to see why they become more aggressive and violent – a combination of having been military trained for combat, some being narc/sociopathic type traits before they enter the military, alcohol and drugs issues, the shame of ‘big tough men’ getting PTSD and feeling like failures and feeling weak and their need to ‘be big tough men’ after the combat career has ended, to make up for their perceived failure in the military. Continue reading

My self esteem, is not required to be remotely tied up in what others think of me.

Self esteem is not about ego, and I see the differences.

Nothing you ever do, will be okay with everyone. If you know your heart intentions, are good and needed and serve a good purpose, then nothing anyone else says, needs to affect that.

My previous counsellor, said my inner security and integrity to what is right and wrong and my capacity to integrity and self honesty, are deep.

If people disagree and criticise, you can evaluate what they have said, decide if they have a valid point of view and re-assess your own thoughts. I believe in taking wise advice. I believe in growing and self development and it takes wisdom and lack of ego to know we need this.

There will always be those who don’t support someone who is willing to step up, and often their lack of support, or criticism, is self serving and about their own ego, or low self esteem.

If I feel it is necessary to expose bullies and people who cause harm to others, and it is needed to help prevent others getting hurt – then I will. I don’t need to take on every challenge, I don’t need to feel responsible for every situation I see, and I need to be aware of my own needs, safety etc, but ultimately, the decision to do good, rather than apathy, is required.

This was an interesting chart showing apathy = low challenge + low achievement.


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I knew this, but it was good to be validated in this diagram, which shows the challenge and effort for apathy is so low. And yet apathy is encouraged on society, unless it is about image, money, status etc. Continue reading

When to tackle bullies, narcissists and sociopaths etc. ???

Had an evening of cyber bullying/stalking from sociopathic bullies, other people were harassed, bullied, threatened, called bad mothers, liars, so it was interesting to see, this was certainly not about anything I had done at all.

Yes, I could have ignored it all and avoided it – but I was already involved in it and knew other people were being harmed, and if I had ignored it – all of this would not been exposed and the bullies/sociopaths concerned, wouldn’t have come to light, but now more people know who these people ‘really’ are.

The truth should always be spoken.

I believe in NOT avoiding abuse and abusers and letting them continue. That is apathy, selfishness.

Society is as unhealthy as it is, because of too much apathy and selfishness.

I believe in courage, integrity, not wanting others hurt by people with bad intentions. Compassion, love etc – are NEVER about condoning, ignoring, avoiding abuse. That is all from a selfish heart.

Many people have been great, so supportive, non apathetic too and also wished to know the truth.

A few decided their ‘own’ needs were more important and were critical of my actions. That’s life. Some people are selfish, apathetic and don’t care about abuse and harm to others, but care if it happens to ‘them’, only. They are ‘all about me’.

My husband (cop) was livid when he found out and saw all the comments, bullying, the ‘tag teaming’ on Twitter to bully me, threats etc, from that PTSD, who claim to care about PTSD. They don’t, they have proven that by their actions – attacking people who have PTSD. No professional PTSD organisation attacks, threatens and bullies people, lies and stalks those, with PTSD. Continue reading

Started researching why social media is damaging society & health. Wow!

Yes, it is.

Wow, there is so much info from psychologists, human science experts, and the like on how social media is causing more damage to society, than any good it may do.

I am not going to deny this to myself, or be a hypocrite, or pretend and excuse with I feel it is okay.

I just can’t be someone with apathy, someone who can make justifications and excuses to turn something into what I want to hear.

I just can’t.

Social media is increasing many harmful behaviours, damaging people’s psyche’s, causing ridiculous amounts of bullying and narcissism, hindering social skills, hindering education, encourages oversharing, damaging memory, social skills, hindering people getting out and having real interactions, increasing anti-social personalities, anger, aggression, increasing a whole mass of uneducated and unwise opinions and advice, flushing away what used to be genuine emotions and interactions and so much more.

Wow.

That is a whole lotta bad influence and harm.

Scary, actually.

APATHY, EGOCENTRICITY, NARCISSISM – Are the most deadly diseases of modern society.

Sadly, most people, have no insight into this.

And even when you inform them, educate them – they don’t want to know and reject it, ignore it, avoid it – which is exactly what they will do – because they have the deadly diseases.

And these diseases, are right throughout society – and Christianity too.

Sad.

Perfect example today.

“Done nothing to me so I don’t care”.

Truly pathetic and no clue. And proud of it.

Sad. So sad.

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